My fiancee and I have been together for 6 years, engaged for 3 years, and are trying to plan a wedding without breaking the bank, but for us, that's not much. The only reason we haven't gotten married yet is because of $. I want to have a small inexpensive wedding, but his family wants us to have a big one. I've talked with my fiancee about this and he kinda wants a big one too, but we've both agreed that unless his family pays for it, it's not gonna happen. I want my wedding dress and a nice reception, but at the same time, I just want to go to court and get it over and done with. I was trying to plan a 2007 wedding, but it looks like it's not gonna happen. How can I get this ball rolling and make everyone happy?
2007-01-31 16:25:02 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i am getting married this year myself but i figure it's mine and my fiancee's wedding so we should do what makes us happy i mean thats what the day is really about - us celebrating our love and commitment to each other. we are just getting married at the registery office and putting more emphasis on the reception which we are having at an extravagant hotel. We have lived together for a few years and don't require the traditional wedding gifts we have asked everyone to pay for their own food at the reception instead. I think you should do what makes you both happy and sticks within your budget. Starting off you married life in debt seems like a bad way to start to me. Good luck I hope this helps a little :)
2007-01-31 16:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by natasha v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay first off stop trying to make everyone happy. When it comes to families it is rare for that to happen.
If his family want a big wedding tell them to start stumping up some cash.
Weddings are just insanely expensive. Even cheap ones are expensive. Just a nice dress and some photos are going to cost over $1,000. And that's cheap.
As unromantic as it is, I say go to the court house and do the deed. When you have later established yourselves financially consider a re-wedding then.
But seriously don't go into debt when there are so many other things you can buy. Even the nicest wedding in the world is just one day. If I ever got married again, I would never spend a bunch of money on it. It is a complete and utter waste of money.
What ever you do, good luck!
2007-02-01 00:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of alllllllllll your options. There are corners you can cut if you want a hometown church wed/receptions such as have a small buffet with chicken and potatoes not multiple choices of beef and steak. Do your own center peices, could you have it in a church basement or have a friend that takes good pics or deejays? Is vegas an option, you could pick a hotel package so you would pay for the wedding/honeymoon all in one deal (and I have to say, I never thought much of a vegas wedding till I went and saw one and LOVED IT!) My friends got married at the monte carlo and had a package included boquet, photographer, ceremony, then when she was leaving through the casino we walked outside, people were congratulating her everywhere and giving them gaming chips...it was awesome. How about Disney World. I think once you look into it, you may be able to afford it more than you think. Congratulations.
2007-02-01 00:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by emm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, do whatever you'd like to do. I think you're selling yourself short though by letting a lack of money stop you from getting married. If you want a small, inexpensive wedding, then the groom's family really doesn't get a whole lot of say here.
You and your fiance need to stand up to his family, and tell them that you guys want to be married in 2007, this year. You guys have enough money saved up to have a small wedding. If they want more, then they need to pay for it, and you guys will consider it. Set a date and everything. Then, see what happens. His family may be fine with helping out with expenses for a bigger wedding, and if so, then let them. Reality may hit hard for them though, they want their son to have a big wedding, but don't want to foot the bill. That's called having your cake and eating it too, and it usually doesn't work. I hope you will go ahead and get married, if that's what you really want. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-01 01:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to please everyone, but I would say it is your wedding so in the end it is all about what you and your fiance want, rather than pleasing his family. If you want to do it quickly and cheaply then eloping is a great option, it's really romantic to pack your things and go away and do the deed, then come back and have the big party to celebrate. Your in laws probably have a dream in their head (as do all parents) that they want to see their son have the big white wedding etc, but the important thing to remember is that the whole point of the wedding is to get married and commit to each other, not the party afterwards.
2007-02-01 03:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Daughter is getting married this March and they are going to Las Vegas for their wedding and a Holiday, The wedding will be as small or as big as she wants and all done for around $2000.00. And we all get a holiday at the same time I can not wait to hit the slot machines and food and entertainment is the best in the world.They will have a Small sit down dinner when they get back for people how could not go to Las Vegas.It your day It not how much money you spend.
2007-02-01 00:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something tells me that after all this time the wedding will NEVER transpire! You are making excuses and so, apparently is he. Both of you are puttling roadblocks in the way of getting married. Either do it (engaged for three years, come on already!), or split up and go your separate ways. You are not as anxious to marry this person as you seem to think you are. You cannot make everyone happy and your own happiness and that of the groom is all you should be concerned with.
2007-02-01 00:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all congrats. Second, it is your day do what you want to do. go to brides.com it helps you with everything. Look around your town and see if they have some clothing stores...like a Pink crush. I bought mine in Pink crush owned by a nice Chinese lady that brings her dresses from China and I paid only $125 and it has beading and everything. For cheap centerpieces buy the little Betta bowls at walmart for like 77cents put a little votive candle you can get a the dollar store 4 for $1 and place in it in each one. i have many more email me if you need more ideas.
2007-02-01 00:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by mommyoftwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I do think it's sort of selfish for your families not to help out and pay. Perhaps, the reason that your inlaws won't pay is because your family isn't willing or able to help and the inlaws don't want to feel used. Weddings and receptions are for the family, but since the family isn't willing or able to help out, just do something small and relaxed for yourselves. Tell anyone who is unhappy that you can't afford it any other way and since they were unwilling to help out they can suck it up and deal with it.
2007-02-01 00:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had the big wedding for under $2000. (That included rings and a trip home (to michigan from Wyoming and back), all the dresses, grooms suites, hall, preacher, food, and dec.) We went to hobby lobby and made most of the dec. ourselves, bouquets, invitations, and dresses too. We got married outside on a bridge in my parents back yard. We had the guys wear black dresspants, with white dress shirts and red ties. (Our colors were red and white.) I got my dress off ebay for $25, it was even made for me, cost $50 to ship. Our rings were at Zales, they have great deals, look for the "brilliant buy sign." Just be creative. The important part is it is what the two of you want. Good luck!!
2007-02-01 00:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs Baker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋