i want sex and she never does anymore can it ruin our relationship i feel like i have to go out and cheat to satisfy my sexual needs my hand is not enough anymore....what do i do? i try talking to her about it and she says she just is not in the mood i am a 24 year old in my sexual prime and i feel i have to beg to get it? she is only 25
2007-01-31 16:12:51 · 21 answers · asked by lizandmike2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the kind of relationship you guys are in. If you partnership is based on pure, unconditional love, than issues like lack of sex shouldn't be much of a problem. If you truly love her and see an everlasting future with her, then you should easily respect her decision not to have sex. That's not to say that the lack of intimacy shouldn't bother you. In this case, you should talk to your girlfriend about this and make sure she knows how you feel. Maybe you'll discover that there's a problem that's bothering her and preventing her from leading a pleasure-filled life. Either way, talk to her and let her know that you really want this relationship to work. But make sure to respect her decision no matter what. If it doesn't satisfy you, then decide on whether you truly love her to overcome this 'dilemma' or if satisfying you sexual needs is more important. In the latter case, instead of cheating, end your existing relationship in a calm manner, explaining your reasoning clearly. This is much better then going out and cheating, which would create more unnecessary drama. But like I said, the answer lies within you and your feelings.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-31 16:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by amcstar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It won't ruin the relationship if you don't let it. It sounds like you're the one being impatient, and you would be the one to ruin the relationship because of this. She is choosing one thing, and while you are choosing another, you still have to respect her decisions. She still has to respect yours also, but this is a different matter. Sex is a different thing...and although you mentioned you both have done it beforem when she says she doesnt want it you should listen to her. It sickens me that you would think of going out and CHEATING on her to get what you want. If this is the girl you are happy with, and the one you want to stay with, you have to find some way to work this out. If this means nothing to you, then sure, go ahead and cheat on her. But she won't appreciate it. And I don't see why you would want to hurt her purposely. If you want to stay with her then you shouldnt be thinking about cheating and getting what you want. Talk to her and agree on something...whether it's other things you will do in place of sex or maybe just agree to do it less than you were before. So then you'll at aleast know when you can. Wait for her and it will be even more special, if that's what you want it to be.
2007-01-31 16:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mellio 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes man ... sex can and does ruin a relationship ... just because its not natural and by natural i mean "with nature" ... we humans are primates and we need to, i repeat need to do IT in our sexual prime ... thats with nature ... i m not sayin ur girlfriend is a freak or something what i am sayin is males are designed in such a way so as to spread their seed (read sperms) and have a superior partner ... that is also the reason males have more tendency to cheat too ...
Moral : yes it will ruin the relationship because u wont stop looking for sex and she cant give it to u ...
Advice : take her to a shrink, she wont get ur point .... if that doesnt help i think u should tell her its tough for u and both of u should accept that loving each other is a different thing than living together and although u love , like or whatever but ur way of life is different .. the sooner u accept the better ...
2007-01-31 16:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Yash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to go and cheat you need to leave her now as thats bad on your part...sorry to say but some people does not have to have sex.....My husband and I are good in our relationship and it only happens once every 2 to 4 months...It is ok and this is what we wont....It has not hurt us as we have been together for 10 wonderful years...
There is reasons girls or prime wemon does not feel the need,something could have happened to her when she was young, I'm not saying it did but if it did that could be a big problem right there.
2007-01-31 16:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Compromise is very important to any relationship. And to me it seems that when it comes to sex, neither are willing to make some compromises. But try coming to an agreement ( eg:- agree to have sex a certain amount of times a week). But before that, you have to talk to your gf about her sudden change of attitude towards sex. If she doesn't see sex as being important & if you do, then it's better for both of you to move on without resorting to cheating. But if you can reach an agreement on having sex, liven it up a bit. Try something different! maybe that would do the trick especially for her!
2007-01-31 16:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is important enough to be a need. It's an expression of love and care and attraction that many people don't only need to receive, but give as well. Tell her it's important, and make it known that the relationship may depend on it.
2007-01-31 16:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it can ruin a relationship, especially at your age. But dont ask her if she wants to have sex, just talk to her about what is wrong, because something could be wrong, which could be the reason she doesn't want to have sex. Also, DONT GO CHEATING! lol seriously that's not cool. Also, I have heard that your guys handjobs can sometimes be better then sex, but if she blows your mind, I understand. Just sit her down and talk regularly.
2007-01-31 16:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buddy, you are really in the dark. If your girlfriend NEVER wants sex with you EVER, then she is either a lesbian, or you don't turn her on, or she is frigid. In any case, I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship, stop whining about your sexual needs, and grow up!
2007-01-31 16:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No sex can ruin a relationship. Cheating for any reason can ruin it even faster.
2007-01-31 16:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's already ruining your relationship. If you're so desperate as to end your relationship over your sexual frustration then don't do it the coward's way and sneak around. End it like man.
2007-01-31 16:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by nemesyn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋