her ex boyfriend, we talked about our ex's and this really stuck in my mind, and I end up never having sex with her because of this, What should I do? (keep in mind that I really love her)
2007-01-31 16:09:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A FREAK IS A FREAK!!!!!!!
Never talk about your ex lovers with your new lovers. This is a no-no. If she did something you wouldn't never ever want a woman to do to you then you better find another woman. If is bothers you that much then ask yourself a couple of question.
1. Do you kiss her now?
2. Infinite love?
3. Can I find a more respectable woman out there?
4. Why am I really with her?
5. Can I live the rest of my live without sex?
HERE'S THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION!!!!!!
SOLUTION
"KEEP SEEING HER UNTIL YOU FIND ANOTHER THAT INTEREST YOU PLAYER-PLAYER"
2007-02-08 15:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by clueless 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the terms and the act that are throwing you. Sex is one thing, something you did with and ex and something she did with an ex. These are people you are no longer in love with. So the term is sex.
You are in love with this woman, and she with you. You are "makikng love" in all manner of ways. Talks over breakfast coffee and all the other little activities that couples do. So when you make love using a traditional definition (having sex) are you really doing something different than all the small things you do together. You probably aren't disgusted with her when you guys throw down a beer together or eat dinner at a restaurant. Remember, she (and you) probably did those things with your exs as well. You are making love in tons and tons of ways. Pull your focus away from getting off and move to place where you simple participating in just one other activity that nurtures and builds your relationship.
2007-02-01 00:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Greg L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats kind of a toughy.
But i think you just have to try your hardest to get that image out of your mind, because first.. its obviously not good for you. its not good for her, because she probably thinks she did something wrong (but really didnt). and its probably not the best situation for your relationship (sex and otherwise). Soooo.. with that said, i say that anytime you start thinking about it, remember that she is with YOU now, and the ex is in the past. Plus, it just gives you the opportunity to show her that your way better than any other partner she's had right? and what could be better than that!
good luck and hope that helps.
oh and if that doesnt work, talk to her about it...maybe find a way for you two to work through it together as opposed to you just disregarding the idea of sex. I'm sure shes missing it just as much as you! And once your able to be together again, it will be the absolute best way for you both to prove that the past is the past and the future.. is the two of you, together!! =)
2007-02-01 00:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by danielley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think something she did with an ex is what is bothering you. I have heard that if you do what they did (if it is a good thing), and do it better, it could fix things. Just blow her mind in a way no one else has, and it will work out. Dont just have sex, go from oral and on and on, then have sex. Pleasure each other in differnet ways, till you get that part where you just have to have sex, you know. Sometimes teasing makes it all better, when it comes to that area.
2007-02-01 00:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were willing to have sex in the past yourself...you cannot hold that fact against someone else that has or who they have been with. That was before your time.
If you truly love her part of your feelings may be wishing that the two of you had only been with one another. But since it is impossible to change the past you have to accept the fact that you are there for one another now, and that you love each other.
If you cannot find a way to get past that it will eventually ruin your relationship with her.
2007-02-01 00:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having issues about her ex, you should raise it with her. Ofcourse, you should avoid saying "i feel disgusted to have sex with you....". The only way you will be able to get over feeling this way is to solve it with your gf. Obviously there is something specific that bothers you about her ex. Talk about it. Her explanation is the only thing that will help you get out of this mind frame
2007-02-01 00:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your girlfriend has done in the past is in the past and none of your business. Likewise goes with you. There's nothing wrong in knowing but you have to get over it. What could she havce said that disguested you so much? Most people have a past including sexual ones with other people so you have to learn that and move on and have fun. By the way she wants to have sex, count you lucky stars that she wants to and get into it!
2007-02-01 00:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by jtgot1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all never discuss the ex's okay especially if you want to look at that person the same as you did. Your best bet is to get over it. If you love her you will. Good Luck:)
2007-02-01 00:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your own past. How do you think your past affects her perception of you. If your fantasy of the virginal partner has been shattered and you can not get over it, move on. If you want to be in a normal healthy relationship, learn how to live with the idea that your girlfriend is a human being and has a past that predates you.
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2007-02-01 00:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by www.MissAccessories.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she's taken a shower since then ;)
If it still creaps ya out - you need to do some serious soul searching and consider counseling.
You've had sex with others too right? Its a two way street, we sleep with all the people that our lover has slept with.....
2007-02-01 00:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by going_crazy_30m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋