The guy was horrible to me yet I still love him
2007-01-31 16:03:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way yes I do know what love is thankyou very much I'm not a kid
2007-01-31 16:10:51 · update #1
I'm gonna clarify a bit more i'm 20 i'm not a kid and it's not that easy to get over this jerk because we have a son together
2007-01-31 16:12:50 · update #2
1. Make a list of the things he did to hurt you and read it until it sinks in.
2. Get out and meet new people and do new things.... things you've NEVER tried... things that will make you feel great about yourself.
3. Pamper yourself.. get your favorite movies, your favorite music, some candles.... etc. Maybe just take long hot baths with candles.
4. Write letters to that person but NEVER send them. It will help you to organize your thoughts.
5. Buy yourself something you've always wanted but thought it was an extravagance.. even if it's just a pedicure or a facial.
6. Accept EVERY invitation you get to go places and invite people yourself! Again.. make the destination someplace different.
6. Make a list of your dream guy... how he would treat you etc. Compare this to the creep that you dated. If you believe in a higher power, pray that you get what you really deserve on not what you had.
7. Smile constantly (even if the smile is fake).. show people you are happy and can get over this... it works on your own mind as well... it builds your confidence.
8. Set yourself one goal per day to accomplish something that you don't think that you can.
9. Talk to people.. could be your relative, your friends, etc. Alternate the people who you talk to so you aren't too much of a burden to one person and you get a lot of differing viewpoints.
10. Eventually.... replace that jerk with a great guy! (the best revenge!)
OH? you have a son together?
11. Think of what a bad influence he can be to your son. Give your son the chance of growing up with a father that can be a good influence and not a bad one.
2007-01-31 16:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a new haircut or otherwise have fun updating your appearance.
Go on a vacation with your girlfriends.
Take a class in something you have always been interested in.
Start a saving plan for something you really want - a great way to mark the time and celebrate 6 months from now.
Write the guy a letter and get it all out. Read the letter in a few months and see if you still think you should send it.
Go get a professional massage.
Buy yourself the best vibrator on the market.
Make an art project - even if you never show anyone. A necklace, a collage, a painting, re-tile your bathroom - anything!
Read Ayn Rand's novel Atlas Shrugged - the best story ever with the best strong woman main character ever.
Ask the people who know you and him best to tell you why he sucks - I bet they know how horrible he was even better than you!
Basically, treat yourself as well as you wanted to be treated by him and never were. Only forward motion and growth by you will move you further away from the place you are now.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 00:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Involvement in and commitment to a social activity that requires meeting new people.
2) More time spent with other friends.
3) Write something descriptive and long about the good and bad parts of the relationship.
4) Avoiding all contact with the person
5) Crying
6) Concentrating on challenging tasks that have a goal or finality
7) Picking out somebody you see regularly and telling yourself that you will look forward to seeing them each day and saying something nice to them.
8) Ice cream
9) Telling your family (or whatever you consider your "family" to be) how much you love them
10) Time
2007-02-01 00:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Take time to grieve.
2. Spend time with friends and family.
3. Join a gym, go shopping, get out of the house and improve your self-image.
4, If you're lonely, and it's too quiet, turn on TV to something boring like CSPAN.
5. Read books on interesting topics.
6. Hey, you're single, so it's easier to go places and see things.
7. Spend time on hobbies and things that interest you.
8. Do volunteer work, join some kind of reputable group, network and schmooze.
9. Don't talk to him, don't read email from him, get rid of things that he might have given you that remind you of him.
10. Make a promise to yourself that next time your standards are going to be higher.
2007-02-01 00:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i found as an easy way to get over my ex, was to keep my self occupied all the time. Always be on the move and doing something different so your mind is too pre occupied to even think of him. It's always easier said than done at first, but once you find yourself out there and meeting new people you won't even remember him.
2007-02-01 00:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Date other guys
2) Workout at the gym (while you date other guys)
3) Don't call him for 30 days (the pain will subside)
4) Don't go out with him (for any reason, remember how horrible he is...)
5) Write down the characteristics you want from your next man
6) Volunteer your "free time" to a worthy cause
7) Go to the Library, art show, concerts, etc (to meet new guys)
8) Take care of yourself; love yourself... cherish you.
9) Enroll in a class
10) Pray, God will direct you...
2007-02-01 00:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by motherkc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are better off without him. Now is the time to embrace everything that is positive, think positive thoughts and force yourself to get over him. You are feeling pain and love because he made you dependent, and made you think you loved him. You got used to him being horrible to you and now you think you need him. Surround yourself with positive people, do something positive for yourself and start living and being happy. When he sees you happy, (without him) it will be the greatest revenge and he will wonder what he was missing. You deserve so much better. By being positive you will attract a positive man who will treat you nice and how jealous your ex will be. Get with it and start living girl. Think of it as a wake up call you need to get on with your life
2007-02-01 00:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a book called "He's Just Not That Into You: the No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" by Greg Behrendt. It's a quick read and oddly a very positive one, and even has a few laughs. It will help you realize that you deserve better and that there IS better out there - and that better is NOT him.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 00:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Stef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Scream at him and say all that you feel
2) Ignore Him
3) Make Him Mad
4) treat him horrible
5) write a long letter
6) get someone to kick him in the b a l l s
7) show him that you are better with out him
8) try to be happy
9) Don't Worry
10) do your school work and worry about this guy later
There are your 10 reasons!
2007-02-01 00:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.don't answer any of his calls
2.avoid all his hang out places
3.never bring his name up in a conversation
4.make a list of all the cute guys you know(exclude him)
5.throw away all his memorabilia
6.if he's been in your bedroom ,change it around
7.change your look,try something different with your hair ,clothes and makeup8.go out with other people9.start a hobbie
10.move
2007-02-01 00:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋