My partner and I are eloping at the end of the year.
Would it be rude to send the 'announcement' on the day we leave the country?
Also, would it be rude to have a bridal registry for the elopement?
2007-01-31 15:58:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
1. We have planned the elopement for the end of the year because we are in Australian and will be married in Italy. (need to save $$$ for the conversion to euro)
2. The announcement will say, "please keep us in your thoughts and prays on December 16th as ....... & ........ will be joined together as husband and wife"
3. We are planning a cocktail party upon our return when we will have a slide show of our wedding and honeymoon photos (thus the reason for the gift registry)
4. We both have HUGE families and thought this would be the most sane option
2007-01-31 16:18:41 · update #1
i think it is wonderful idea and no neither sugesstionis rude at all.....you will have no stress and things will go much smoother for you i am planning a big wedding in august right now and it is driving me crazy already with the bridesmaids not getting along and all.....everyone thinks it is their wedding and thinks of what they would want and tend to foget about me and what i want after all I AM THE ONE GETTING MARRIED.......DEFINATLY ELOPE!!!!!!! i wish i had
2007-01-31 16:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by chylie p 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I fully agree with obenypopstar! I can understand 'eloping' to avoid the bustle & hassle of a big wedding. I'm not a party person at all, not married or engaged but I don't ask people for my bday or at most I ask one friend over... I wouldn't know where to even *start* with a big wedding and while I'm lucky enough to have a very small family who take me as I am and would accept it if I asked just my mom to come with us to the Town Hall, sign some papers and be done with it, if I ever got married to someone with a huge family I know I'd be very tempted to do what you're planning! But it does seem tacky to register for gifts... those who are close to you will probably give you something when the two of you return anyhow, but don't ask for it by having a registry.
2007-02-01 02:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thought eloping was when you'd had enough of the wedding plans, and you just say "to crap with it, lets go!!" i think you are actually planning a tiny mini wedding, and not inviting anyone. ...so....that's pretty rude. why don't you just invite people, register, and do everything normally. if you live in australia, and you're going to italy, what are the chances that people will come anyways??
and if you don't want people to come..well, you can't have your cake and eat it too. give up the gifts.
why don't you do it brittney spears style? get married, then invite everyone over for a "special dinner" and then tell them you got married, and would they like to enjoy a nice slide show. but you can't ask them for gifts.
2007-02-01 01:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right? Do you even understand what eloping is? It means you run away to get married, thus avoiding the traditional wedding. You don't send ammouncements telling people you are eloping. Sheesh! And yes, having a bridal registry would be not only rude but totally inane! Dear, you are ELOPING! And I have never heard of anyone scheduling their elopment. I think you must be fairly young, and totally naive!
2007-02-01 00:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It would be rude to send somehting out before you leave, how about after you get back but don't expect any gifts in return since there was no wedding. Also, a wedding registry is normally only to give people ideas for gifts to give the couple at the wedding. Good luck and congratz.
2007-02-01 00:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am idly curious as to why you are waiting that long. But that is beside the point. Announcements should go out after the deed is done, and you should not bother with a registry. Gifts are not ordinarily accorded to couples that elope.
2007-02-01 00:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You may elope, you may advise of elopement, you may NOT ask for gifts. The gifts are a kind of trade off for going to the big fancy wedding. You can not have it both ways.
2007-02-01 01:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not entitled to have registry for elopement. Announce after you have eloped.
2007-02-01 07:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that the announcements are fine, as to the gift registery... I think if you are not inviting people to a wedding it would be rude to expect gifts. My husband and I went to Vegas and tied the knot there, we did not take anyone with us and did not have a reception, but also we did not ask for presents (although close family did buy us stuff.)
2007-02-01 00:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why, the whole thing is rubbish, if I was your mother or father just think how I would feel, no I do not think you have thought any thing out, for god sake a bridal registry for the elopement and you are probably serious about that.
Wonders never Cece
2007-02-01 00:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by kate 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋