Girlfriend and Drugs?

Question

My girlfriend wants to experiment with ecstasy, and i dont know what to do, anything i say wont change her mind from taking. she just says she wants to try it for once, because its always been something she wanted to know what the fuss is about and what it feels like. it bothers and disappoints me soo much. i've told her everything, she just says that she doesn't understand why it's affecting me so much, cuz it shouldnt, but it does, because i don't wana associate with druggies. im also afraid that she might like it and develop a thing for it. and blah.

well, the thing is, i think im in love with her, and she is with me, and i know she is based on how she acts all the time, this has been something she had previously vowed to try. and i can't be that controlling about something she had previously wanted to attempt in her life.

Answer 1

Dude, she can't be trusted, she's not listening to you because she doesn't value your opinion and thinks that being cool and feeling cool is the way to go. Pretty soon she'll be screwing anybody that she thinks is cool or hot or whatever. She wants ecstacy because she's not satisfied with the real world, she needs to "enhance" it. Trust me, I've seen this stuff a lot, even if you guys get married she's gonna "need more." My friend just got left by his wife of 10 years and found out that she'd been cheating on him the whole time. Now she's doing whatever makes her happy (living with her mom and doing anyone she can catch.) Don't be stupid, you know what is right. The last thing you want is some girl who is only out for what she wants right then.

Answer 2

It's just a drug. Do you get this upset and confused when she eats margarine, donuts, cupcakes, etc.? Because the trans fatty acids in those cause much more severe long-term health problems than using MDMA (ecstasy) occasionally.

What exactly is a 'druggie' and why don't you want to associate with them? It's a VERY rare person indeed who doesn't use drugs regularly. Caffeine, alcohol, aspirin, tobacco, MDMA, Lipitor, Prozac, Nolvadex, ephedrine, etc. are all drugs. If you mean you don't want to associate with people who use illegal drugs, then I think you should think this stigma over logically.

40 years ago, would you have been upset with your girlfriend if she became friends with a black girl? Because back then, associating with black people had just as bad a stigma, if not worse, than associating with people who use illegal drugs.

The fact that something is illegal or frowned upon by most of society has little bearing on whether it's morally or ethically right. In the future hopefully the freedom to alter your body in any manner you deem appropriate will be exist again like it did a few generations ago, and your stigmatized perception of 'druggies' will stop making sense.

Answer 3

If I were you, I would do research on the drug and its affects. Also make your girlfriend aware of the risks involved and that some people die if they take the drug (THE FIRST TIME). Let her know you're giving her the information because you care and you would rather not see her try it.
Basically, you educate her to help her make an informed decision. It's her body so she's going to make her own decision, and unless you're a controlling boyfriend, you'll give her the space she needs.

Answer 4

She should probably become more informed about what could happen as a result of taking the drug. There are the medical side effects, what about possible genetic damage.....her kids could be affected by birth defects..... and how sure can you be about the content of the drug?? You don't know who made it .... how they made it, and what they made it with. It's not like she would be buying it from her local trusted pharmacist. Somebody cooked this stuff up in a shed somewhere. If she won't back off the idea.... get away from her.... you don't need to become involved with that stuff, or someone who thinks that little of themself to take those risks.

Answer 5

Be very careful and if possible move out and on of the relationship. Almost all regular drug users (addicted ones) do not confess to their regular usage. Drug usage and dishonesty go together. Your girlfriend wants to come out of the closet slowly and chances are that she has been using drugs for a while. If you agree for her to do drugs with or in front of you, the next move is to convince you to use them. If you become her accomplice she feels that you will not leave her for her drug usage. This is a toxic relationship where you will become the hostage. Sorry, but this is exactly how I feel about it.

Answer 6

Time for drastic measures-seek help form doctors rehab centers, they usually have photos, or video clips of people who have suffered, or died from drug overdoses (say its for a project or something) &show it to her, it could be the only thing to change her mind. Or threaten-by saying u going to tell someone she truly wouldnt want to know

Answer 7

Tell her Ecstasy, has heroine in it. And that you just don't accept her taking it. If she does try it, and you feel disgusted with her after.
Only thing you can do is tell her that you can't accept it and leave her.

So , if she tries it once , try to accept it, if you can't you will know.

Answer 8

let her try it. i said the same thing when i wanted to see what extasy was like. if she has to try it, ask her to only take half a tablet and see what it does to her before she takes the other half. safer that way..

see what happens after her experience.. hopefully she is telling the truth and won't do it anymore. if she wants to do it again next weekend, you've got a problem.

Answer 9

dont do it. ecstacy is never a good thing. let her know how much she means to you and you dont wanna lose that.let her know that if she tries it, there will be nothing between you two. and if she still tries it, then you know she wasnt good enough for you anyway. you dont have to be controlling about it, just let her kknow it wouldnt be good

Answer 10

Let her try it..