should i call off the date?

Question

I havent dated for 6 months. I kinda tried to avoid it because i've had bad dating experience. Now I met this really great guy, the only thing I dont like about him is he dates around for fun a lot. He told me he wanted to date me because he has high hopes for me. When he asked me out, I hesitated and told him he wasn't serious about it. Then to prove that he really wanted to take me out, he kissed me. It was the sweetest thing ever. We've hung out before (going to the movie, out for dinner, bar-hopping...) but this is gonna be our first real date.
I am very scared of getting hurt again. Should I not go?

Answer 1

Well you have already hung out with and you have already kissed him, just go on the "date" and see how it goes. It is a innocent little date, you don't even have to like the guy to date him.

Answer 2

You should go just because your scared. Face your fears. Even if nothing comes of this, at least you can say your out there. The longer you wait, the more nervous you'll get about dates. Unfortunetly there is always going to be that risk. I know I hate that risk. But there's also the butterflies... Gotta love the butterflies of a new relationship. Think about the positives and quit focusing on the negative. Think of this as practice. Who knows where it'll go. It doesn't matter. Your going to go out, and you'll have fun. And then maybe the next date for you won't be so scary. I really hope you go and have a blast! Good luck!

Answer 3

Sweetie. RUN IN THE OTHER DIRECTION. If he can't respect you enough to be either one woman at a time, or at the VERY least discreet - then you have NO business thinking that there would be ANY future for you and him.

You deserve MUCH better. Same EXACT situation happened to me a year and a half ago. He and I had been talking every day, hung out together with friends and even had a few dates.... THEN he tells me he is seeing other women because it's not like we are "boyfriend and girlfriend..." I was SO hurt and offended that he didn't find me interesting enough to limit his dating to only me for at least a few dates - and THEN decide?

So, get this..... Now I am engaged to this AWESOME man and liek alst week - I get this pathetic email from THAT guy saying that I was his favorite girl he dated back then and he totally wanted to marry someone like me and he had even told his Mom that he thought I was the one...... Now, he is begging ME to give HIM the chance to make ME happy.............. GO FIGURE HUH???

Nah girl. You deserve better.

I've dated guys like that my ENTIRE life and it wasn't until someone gave me a book called "Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Screw up their Lives" (by Dr Laura) that I changed my ways of dating...... Now, a year later - I have the greatest guy in the world and we are getting married. That book covers ALL the stuff like that and it is not a hard read and it is VERY interesting.

Check it out, and CHUCK this guy.................
When I chucked that guy, I explained to him (exact words) "Hun, I am FAR too wonderful and interesting for ANY man to sample other women while dating me........If you can't figure that out - then you need to go chase those other women......." It worked.....

Don't be mad at him. Just understand that he is a young guy and they are wired differently. They don't understand. To a man, it is LOGICAL to do this as he can meet many chicks at once..... They don't think with their hearts as much as we do....... Just be kind and forgive his lack of understanding. BUT DO NOT CUT YOURSELF SHORT FOR HIM!!!!!!

Answer 4

hmm the only way you get hurt is from yourself. he mite be out for some asp, but i'd give him the denefit of the doubt but jus be cautious. dont give in rite away if he tries laying it down. make sure he knows you mean business and want a real relationship when that time comes, but go on the date. technically it shouldnt be date number 1 either.. those are dates that you went on were just that dates movie=date out for dinner=date bar hoppin=date, so dont let this one scare ya any more than the others. and have fun jus be assertive bout what your intentions are. good luck

Answer 5

Go, but keep in mind that he dates casually. Don't get your hopes up, relax and enjoy the date for what it is.....the company of a really great & fun guy. Not all dates have to lead to relationships.

Answer 6

I'd say go for it, get back on the horse if you will, but you don't have to let the date lead anywhere you don't want it to and if it DOES end badly just remember it's not a reflection of you, just bad chemistry. =)

Answer 7

He is not the one. The one does not say that he has high hopes for you. He must like you, first and formost. Like you for who you are. with all the goods and bads. LIKE not love. LIKE is important, love goes away, like stays.

I have been with my husband for a while now. We have been best friends for many years before dating. I like him for all the bad as well as good. Because bad makes him who he is, just like good.

Good luck! Dating is not easy, but you cannot shelter yourself from it as it will prevent you from meeting the one.

Answer 8

go for it. just think about it as another hang out. relax. infact, before you go, hang out with your girl friends and spoil yourelves. go to a spa or hop ion a hot tub, do your hair and pic clothes. have fun and wind down before your date. it will help quite your nervse. then go for it. go out with him and enjoy the experience. i think you might end up regreting it later, thinking "what if i had accepted and gone out with him".

Answer 9

You will always wonder what might have happened if you don't go on a real date with him.

Answer 10

Go but in your head just say he is a friend