when ever i tell her she is beautiful or pretty she always thinks im lying . .. but i am not im 100% serious i really think she is pretty and some times i tell her she looks cute and she says "Are you kidding i look horrible" she says that when ever she looks bad or has no make up on i say she looks pretty. i can never tell when she is not wearing make up on . . so yea are lots of girls like this or is she just weird . . . or is she just saying it so she can hear me say shes pretty longer?
2007-01-31 15:16:18 · 16 answers · asked by Mickster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like most girls. See our problem is that we love it when our man compliments us, but our own self esteem sometimes gets in our own way of seeing what you see. I am sure your girl friend is pretty, but if you say it constantly, and I say this from experience, it starts sounding meaning less. Like you are just wanting something from her, even if you are not. Besides that, she may just like the attention that you give her and she probably loves it when you tell her she looks good with or with out make up. But tell her how you feel. Ask her if she has a problem with you telling her that all the time, it may, believe it or not, make her feel uncomfortable... And she may just be one of these girls, like myself, that doesn't know how to take a compliment the right way. Girls are very hard to understand sometimes on the most simple minded things. Trust me, though, she is like every other girl out there... She loves to hear, she just has a funny way of showing it... Like some of the other girls replied to your question, she may want to see if you are able to convinvce her of what you are telling her. Hope you work things out.
2007-01-31 15:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound frustrated by your girlfriend's insecurity. It is hard when you care about someone and tell her how much you love her or how pretty you think she is to be constantly contradicted by her.
When a person thinks lowly of herself, no amount of affirming from anyone else will change her opinion, as you are discovering. If she asks for your opinion, you may consider telling her that although you find her beautiful, she won't be able to hear, believ or receive what you say until she can see herself as precious and beautiful. If she is not asking for your opinion, when you do tell her how lovely she is, you may choose to respond to her " It saddens me to hear that you think so little of yourself." Or you may want to stop complimenting her and if she asks why you don't compliment her, you can tell her that you have already told her many times how beautiful you think she is and she won't believe you so you have grown weary of trying to convince her, and you still think she is beautiful. The only thing unattractive about her is her opinion that she is unnatractive.
Kind regards
2007-01-31 23:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the strange world of women. She is being modest (or at least pretending to be). And of course, she wants you to 'convince' her of it. The next time you are trying to flatter her and she starts doing that tell her this "Honey, if it makes you doubt yourself so much and question my sincerity, maybe I shouldn't tell you when I think you look especially attractive. Can you please try just saying thank you for the compliment and then let it go???" I guarantee you, that will nip your little problem in the bud right away.
P.S. You sound like such a sweet boyfriend, she's a lucky gal. What do you mean am I kidding??? No! Really! You really do sound like a sweet guy! hehehehehe
Good luck with your girlfriend! (((((((((hug)))))))))))))
2007-01-31 23:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls don't know how to take a compliment and it is awkward and they aren't sure what to say. Kind of embarrassing but not. She isn't weird, just female...lol It is not a bad thing it is just she is not sure what to say maybe. I am like that and I laugh or make a little joke about it because I don't know how to take a compliment. Don't stop complimenting her. Not many guys do that these days.
2007-01-31 23:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Weezy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont wait till she askes you. Make it very dramatic when you tell her. Some of us dont see what other people so. So if you point it out out of nowhere, it will make her feel good. My boyfriend will just stare at me and tell me that Im the most beautiful woman he sees around him and at first i didnt know how to take the comliment and i would react the same as your girlfriend. But i know now he really means it and thats all that matters to me. She wont get tired of hearing it. Believe me.
2007-01-31 23:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is very self conscious. We are all like that. I guess it all depends on our individual confidence levels how hung up we are about things like that. There are just some people that don't know how to handle compliments even if they are looking pretty good. Just reassure your gf that you love her wether she is wearing makeup or not. Then maybe she will believe you when you say that she looks good without it.
2007-02-01 00:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol i have that same problem!! she's not fishing for compliments, she really does think she's not all that good looking she has a low self esteem, she's finding it hard to believe that anyone would ever think she was gorgeous, keep giving her compliments and dont drool over other chicks infront of your girl that just makes things worse!!
2007-01-31 23:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some girls dont believe how beautiful they really are. they are the nice ones.. i hate girls that think their gods gift to men, they just too snoby. but maybe shes right, maybe you have bad taste lol just kidding.. send me her pic and ill let you know. then you can tell her that you have proof that she is hot....
2007-01-31 23:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's sooo normal....some girls with low self esteem even when pretty have a hard time accepting compliments....so to answer your question...no she is not weird!! :D
2007-01-31 23:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lots of girls are like this. we are pressured to look a certain way and be a certain way. if we are not that way and someone tells us we are, we deny it because we don't believe others feel that way. girls are very judgmental of thier bodies. plus, saying things like that helps prevent herself from being as embarrest.
2007-01-31 23:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋