I've been going to the doctors for the last 4 months for anxiety attacks and have been on Effexor and Ativan. My teacher who is my friend is very worried about me becuase im so easily put in tears or close too, my sleeping and eating habits have been off and i've become very anxious. She made me book an appointment at the doctors and wants to go with me becuase 1) my family doesnt know i'm on them and 2) shes afraid im not telling the doctor 100% of what im experiancing. Would you let her come with you?? Wouldnt the doctor shrugg her shoulders at me ?? Please your opinion helps
2007-01-31 14:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is obvious to me that your teacher cares about you. From what you have written I would suggest a few things.
First, I think you are really on the right track by going to the doctor. You do not want to mess around with anxiety issues and it also sounds to me as though you could be depressed because of the change in eating habits and the crying that you talk about.
Second, is it an option to tell your parents how you are feeling and that you need to see a doctor. If it is, I would tell them...but you may have very good reasons for not telling them and I respect that. But, if you can talk to them...don't be embarrased and talk to them...they could be more concerned about you than you realize or could turn out to be very supportive.
Third, I think it is great that the teacher is willing to take her own time to help you out. I would however suggest meeting your teacher at the medical facility and not going together. Too many things could get blown out of proportion if you let her drive you. If you don't want to get the teacher in trouble and you can get your own transportation to the medical clinic...I would plan to take this route...perhaps a city bus...can you drive? or maybe if you can afford it a taxi...or walk if it is not too far. I am just thinking of a situation of when I was in high school and a teacher took a student somewhere and then there were claims made about sexual harrassment. If you care for the teacher as she cares for you...make your own transportation arrangements to get there so nothing gets blown out of proportion should someone 'say' something happened when in fact 'nothing' did...this was the case at my school I would be hesitant to tell you it were OK for the teacher to physically bring you, but I think it is different if she wants to meet you there to offer support. I hope this makes sense...got a little long winded on that point! Sorry.
Lastly, I don't know why the doctor would shrugg her shoulders at you if you brought your teacher for support. The doctor may not allow the teacher in the room though and she may have to wait in the waiting room. Some medical facilities (I work in one) only let parents/guardians into examination rooms with kids under the age of consent. Where I live that is 17. But, you would still have her there to be supportive to you if she met you at the clinic and waited until it was over and then the two of you could talk.
But, no, I don't think it is weird that the teacher wants to come. I think you might get a lot of twisted answers here though...but maybe not. I think it is great that the teacher is showing interest in a students health and mental health. There aren't many who do that. I wish I would have had a caring teacher as it sounds like you do. Good luck with this...I hope it works out well for you!
2007-01-31 15:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tiggers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor should perform a full mental health exam on you, if she seems to dismiss your symptoms you should ask for a second opinion. If she is not a Psychiatrist ask her for a referral.
You should always be up front & honest with your doctor because not giving all the information can make the treatment process more difficult.
Many people forget to mention things so it's important to write it down. Don't be afraid to take out a piece of paper with symptoms or questions on it.
If you feel comfortable with this person going with you then let her go. If you forget something she will be able to help out & give the doctor more insight into what is going on with you. Remember she has a different perspective on things.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 23:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy RN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this teacher has become someone you confide in or like one of your best friends then I would say yes. Believe it or not there are teachers out there who care and touch the lives of their students. I have a teacher who is that way, who worries about me and wants to make sure I am doing everything I can to take care of myself and to stay safe. It seems like your teacher having you make the appointment and wanting to go with you sounds like she really cares about what happens to you. It seems like she wants to make sure that you tell the doctor everything so that you can get the best and all of the treatment you need. Something else I would advise would be to share with you family/parents know whats going on with you. It may seem to you like they dont care, but deep down they do care. If you do not think you'd feel comfortable about sharing this with them then maybe ask your teacher what she thinks and maybe she might be able to help you come up with some ideas how you could tell them.
2007-02-01 01:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by hobbitqueen18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say yes because it sounds like she is worried about you. i know in the world we live in today we all think that this is a little out of the ordnary.
still consider talking to your family. im in the same position. my family does not understand anything about my anxiety and depression and im going to invite my mom to one of my appts and my dad to the other so they can ask the doctor questions. at least you are seeking help. good luck. i figured taking one in at a time would be better b/c it would be 1 on 1 with your doctor being a neutral person. when you see your doctor ask him if this would be okay-im sure he wouldn't object.
2007-02-01 10:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by manechick7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate for your teacher to accompany you to a doctor's office. If anything, she could get in trouble for not informing the proper people of what is going on with you. You should get your parents involved. They should be the ones coming with you. I know it may not sound like the most ideal situation, but believe me, your parents will be there long after your teacher has gone out of the picture.
2007-01-31 23:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the teacher is your friend as you have stated and your family is not aware of the situation I would say accept your friend's support. It is very unlikely that when you have a friend by your side to help you in your time of need it could go wrong.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 23:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes take her with you,she can tell the doctor her observation of you which you may not beaware of.and no the doctor wont mind at all
2007-01-31 23:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by mylilsun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea. your family needs to know what your going through.
2007-01-31 23:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by cute_and_sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just answered a question EXACTLY like this ???...
2007-01-31 23:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋