I have been dating one woman for past year who has been my angel since the death of my son and other events; however I do not have great chemistry with her. A woman I had dated about two years ago came back into my life about a month ago; we had fallen in love at first sight when we first met but she wasn't ready for a serious relationship at that time. She wants to be with me now, but my girlfriend has never done anything wrong, loves me very much and has been my rock for a year. Why do I still feel attracted to the other woman? We are all in our 50's; not teeny boppers.
2007-01-31 14:42:45 · 14 answers · asked by LarBear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont settle for the one you can live with, Go for the one you cant live without.....it sounds like the one who has been your "rock" as you say isnt really tje "one" you love. you should end it now before your stuck, if she loves you she'll appreciate that you are being honest with her and in the long run its best for everyone.
2007-01-31 14:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is part of life. If you love either of them at all or both of them... you must make a decision. What makes you think that the Love at First Sight woman will commit to you now? Has something changed in the last 2 years that makes her open to committing?
Both women need to know the truth. Open, Honest, Vulnerable Communication is the only way to sustain a relationship beyond the "dating" stage. Do you have this with either? If you string along the current woman, you would be hurting her. If you lead on the 2nd woman, you would be hurting her. Either way, you need to make a big choice.
Here's a thought: When people are committed, they feel the most temptation. When people are committed, they are attractive to others because of the self confidence we radiate. Woman 2 may like you now while you are committed to another woman, but when she finally has you, will she still want you? I think you should stay with your rock and stop having an emotional or other affair with the woman you are lusting over. Keep your rock and know that you "still got it!" 2 years without someone is not a lot of time. But one year of happiness.... That will last forever.
2007-01-31 14:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now the first woman sounds like a good partner, she is there for your time of greatest need. The second woman may love you but she has been away from you for two years. Now a romantic would say to go with the second woman and go on many "beautiful" dates. But I'm more realistic. I generally don't think you should break up with someone unless they have been immoral. The first woman is your "rock" and that takes a significant amount of intimacy to establish. Stay with the 1st woman. She sounds pretty loyal.
2007-01-31 14:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by markbigmanabell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction is a natural part of being human. If your relationship with your current girlfriend would not have ended or even been in the risk of being over than you should be grateful that you still have animal instincts and leave it at that. Why risk something so great when the other can be so uncontrollable. If you are only with your current girlfriend because it is comfortable and she wants more from you then you should break things off.
2007-01-31 14:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by leanne_13212000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say stick with your girlfriend. I know maybe you feel attracted to this other woman, but are you really willing to wait for her. i know she's ready now, but where was she before? It's inconsistent and undependable. And i really think that your girlfriend is true, and if she's been there for you for the past year... she's worth it. Chemistry is not something you can build a good relationship on. what you have with your girlfriend is real, and its down to earth and it is something worth keeping. I know it is a hard decision, and hope you can make the right choice! good luck with this!
2007-01-31 14:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't "feelin' the love" with this nice woman who you've been with.....move on... but talk to her and tell her the reason... don't just run out the door. Maybe she would agree with you that the "chemistry" for a more involved relationship just isn't there. Life's too short..... Go for the Gusto!!
2007-01-31 14:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take more the a month to fall in love.
You might have dated 2 years back but, neither you or her are the same people.
Take your time and tell the one your with about the other person.
2007-01-31 14:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not only about chemistry, although that is a huge component. Who do you have more fun with? Who do you take more seriously? Who would you give your life for? Does one woman bring out the best in you? Who are you more comfortable around? Who are you more honest with? etc...
2007-01-31 14:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just think the other lady who came back in your life dumped you, the other loves you now!!! but you should think and make sure you think hard because this could ruin your love life. think on who makes you fell warm or maybe even happy. Who makes you fell like screaming to the world? just follow your heart. And you really actually be attracted to other women but when you do just think about your girlfriend.
I WISH YOU LOTS OF LUCK< MAKE A GOOD CHOICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-31 14:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel indebted to woman # 1 because she has been there for you, & is loyal. That alone is not a good reason to stay in a relationship with her.
The only thing you actually owe her is your complete & utter honesty.
2007-01-31 14:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋