i feel like him and i are drifting farther and farther apart. He has been hanging up the phone on me quite frequently b/c he gets upset because he feels like he's not worthy to be with me. he also tells me that i should go find someone else who's better. i've gotten the feeling that he doesnt love me anymore and have asked him. he says he still loves me and wouldnt know what to do if i wasnt in his life.
i just dont know what to do. i still love him. but i think that he's hinting to me that he doesnt love me back. hes not the same person i fell in love with.
he has been going through a heavy depression and i feel bad b/c i cant see him when he needs me most. he lives an hour away from me and will be having surgery within the next week. if i was to dump him when would be the best time? before or after the surgery? i kind of feel like im just running away from all these diffuculties and i dont want to leave and then regret my decision for a long time after. i need help please.
2007-01-31 14:41:20 · 12 answers · asked by shippos_grl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like an attention *hore. You don't sound like you like being the doormat, so stop. He is enjoying the negative attention, and you're enabling him. Why? This sounds like emotional abuse? Life's too short to waste on stupid head games like this.
Don't let some surgury add some kind of guilt that makes you stay. It sounds like it will always be something, and you will be miserable always.
All relationships have ups and downs, but what's going on with you is NOT part of a healthy relationship.
You sound young, and have more to learn about love and life. Take this as a learning experience and MOVE ON NOW! You owe it to YOURSELF!!!
Good luck!
2007-01-31 14:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why u hiding ? You ask a VERY LOADED question...
and you don even give a ghost e-mail? First is it MAJOR surgery? If so there is a chance he knew of his condition and he knows the risks involved and jus wants to cut you loose in case some thing happens ( the feeling of withdrawl you get from him) If you truly LOVE him you would grab the kid by the ear and sit him down and talk this out and get to what is REALLY going on....
2007-01-31 15:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Da Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His self-esteem is very low now, whatever the reason may be. Wait until after his surgery. His values and life outlook may change. He might appreciate you more for being by his side. You seem like a nice young lady and I am sure most of us guys would like to have someone like you. So, wait and see what happens. If he's not treating you right, move on.
2007-01-31 14:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do people get into relationships? because they feel that having the other half would SOMEHOW make you a happier person. If you even ask this question, you are already having doubts. Go for a cooling off period, reassess your situation, only when you are a single when you can think rationally... you cannot make everyone happy.... then only after that you will know what to do.... sometimes people know what they ARE supposed to do, just that they need assurance that they are making the right one, why live other people's life....????
2007-01-31 14:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by glastnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs counseling...and good drugs. he sounds depressed. Either that or he's cheating on you and is trying to cover it up. But, I'd go with the depression thing. A good psych. can prescribe drugs that will help him out of this slump. Winter is a hard, evil time and many people fall prey to its wicked schemes. See if he can get help soon.
2007-01-31 14:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by dwilmoth822 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be fusterated wtih the relationship it may be that all the things going on around him the surgery the depression may be affecting him and that hes taking it out on u the depression may be talking when he tells u to find someone else but he may just be tired of his problems and it may not be u just give him some time
2007-01-31 14:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by britt b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants you out of his life, because hanging up on you gives you the impression that you're not wanted.
TELL him what you feel. Maybe he'll open up. If not, just be his friend but you're not obligated to 'stand by your man' just because you dated for a few months. Its not a marriage and you shoudl move on.
2007-01-31 14:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's being manipulative. He would make your life miserable. It's all about him. Anyway, if you have to ask, he's not for you.
2007-01-31 15:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hesounds very immature. Dump him and find somebody who isn't.
2007-01-31 14:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ted T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put on your best pair of running shoes and run far, far away.
2007-01-31 14:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋