i can't understand why I am jealous. This girl at work and I have become close friends. I really like her. Yes, I really like her more than a friend and she doesn't know it. I don't think she likes me more but I don't know. I dont want to ruin the friendship. It started out great. I was laid back and easy going, didn't have a care. Now I feel like I've turned into this raging maniac who gets jealous everytime she talks to another girl or coworker. I hate these feelings. It's not me and I don't want them. How do I get rid of them and be me again? I think my jealousy is pushing her away to others. Help, I don't want to lose her. What do I do?
i'm looking for a christian perspective. we're both christians. i try and deny my feelings and pray and read the bible but i can't help the way i feel. what can i do to stop this jealousy? it's making me feel bad and in turn she's starting to feel a little uncomfortable with me.. i can see it. help!
2007-01-31 14:31:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You give the impression that you are starved for friendship. That's OK to want to be a friend, but you don't need to be jealous because God directed your life to meet her in the first place. Envy is one of the 7 Deadly Sins.Deadly meaning that where it is aloud to grow it festers and destroys the relationship. If your friendship is a Christian friendship, do not worry, if you were meant to be friends it will develop naturally. Just be yourself, be confident in the God given gifts you have to be a friend. To have a friend is to be a friend. Don't be possessive or jealous, there is no need to. And do not worry about tomorrow, for it will have troubles of it's own. If she speaks to someone else make them your friend without seeming "needy," know that God loves you and through prayer He will guide you to true friends, plus you will be making better friends with God Himself. For He takes pleasure in guiding us and making us happy. Have confidence in yourself that you are worthy of having friends, for Jesus said, "come to me all you who are heavy burdened and I will give you peace." Trust in Jesus and you will have friends galore.So in everything do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Profits." Mark 7:12. Hope this helps, God Bless.
2007-01-31 15:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to help you. This is certainly a confusing situation, and I think that's what your major problem is. You don't think that this girl knows how you feel about her at all. Yet, you can tell that she's feling uncomfortable with you. She's probably confused by your behavior as well. I don't want to be too personal here, but are you gay? If so, are you out at work? You need to try to not be jealous because that emotion won't help anyone. You say that you're Christian, but I don't think most Christians or what they believe are sensitive to what you're feeling. Don't feel guilty. You were born to be who you are, and you have no control over it. You need to find friends who accept you for who you are and people who will understand you and reciprocate your feelings. This thing with this girl at work is probably a dead end.
2007-01-31 14:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she probably realizes you have feelings for her and she's uncomfortable because she is not attracted to you in that way. She probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings either but doesn't want you to think it will go any farther. I had a similar thing happen to me but I woke up to what I was doing and I put a stop to it. The other person still tries to lure me into her trap but I refuse to acknowlege it. Just straighten up. Are you normally attracted to other girls? If this is the first time, then just stay away from her for a while and get yourself together.
2007-01-31 14:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, darling, you are giving her mixed signals... and I imagine she is very afraid of you right now !! All of a sudden...you... her good friend is going into the jealousy mood... and she has no idea what the hell is happening with you. You are falling in love with her. You are fighting it with all of your heart and soul. She is confused because she has no idea. This is drama and more drama. Truly.. do you think there could be more to this friendship? Could it go further. ?? Is she afraid because she is really not on the same page as you? Think hard about this one.
2007-01-31 14:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you do like her more than a friend..
If you are a Christian then you probably have read the many passages in the Bible about homosexuality and how it is an abomination against God....
sorry, homosexuality and Christianity doesn't fit in the same sentence....
2007-01-31 14:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I may not be a Christian but if I were you, you shouldn't show your jeleousy to her, try to hide it as much as you can, when you get the chance have a casual dinner with her and try to get to know her more if your lucky she might find an interst in you instead but just remember sometimes your not the one at falt it's just your weary mind
2007-01-31 14:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you could try allowing your common sense back into the situation. your friend is not your property. it is stupid for you to be feeling territorial. you do not own her. she is not yours "to lose". and if you keep thinking like some testosterone ridden male puffing up over mating rights you're going to alienate your friend and possibly even frighten her enough to get the rest of your co workers looking at you askance.
2007-01-31 14:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by nebtet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go seek some Religious help from your father or preache.....they will guide u right way...
2007-01-31 14:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by DON 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fall in love for her.
2007-01-31 14:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋