My bf is hardly ever in the mood to "do stuff" with me. He never comes on to me. I asked him if he thought I was ugly, and he said no.....he just doesn't get in the mood that often.
I, on the other hand, only get in the mood at around 3 in the morning.....while he's asleep. So I wake him up, (almost every other night), so I can give oral (because I enjoy giving), and he goes back to sleep. He told me, that he finds this annoying, because he's tired and wants to sleep. If I didn't wake him up, we wouldn't have a sex-life!
My view, is that he's lucky to get any at all. Is he wrong for saying that? Do I deserve better?
2007-01-31 14:24:43 · 15 answers · asked by Abby C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think some of you are missing the point. Its up to me to come on to him because he never comes on to me, he's never horny! So, whenever I'm in the mood, I'll wake him up.....because if I didn't, sex would be non-existent in this relationship!
2007-01-31 14:40:17 · update #1
You do have different time clocks but, he should feel very lucky to have a girl friend that has enough interest in him to do this for him even though he doesn't do anything for her.
I would be thankful to have such a great girl with me.
You need to talk to him and find out what the problem is and you need to work on it together and if he will not work on it you need to find someone who will treat you like you with the love and interest you deserve
2007-01-31 14:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty weird that he is almost never in the mood. Most guys would be happy to get some even if it means getting woken up at 3 in the morning. You might want to look into and see if he is seeing someone else. That might be why he doesn't want to have sex with you.
I would say if he doesn't enjoy waking up at 3 in the morning then thats just him and leave it at that but if he is never in the mood at any other time then there is something else going on here.
You can also try spicing up your sex life with him by wearing some lingerie, watching porn together, Kama Sutra rocks!, talking dirty, using sex toys, or doing plenty of foreplay.
2007-01-31 22:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's wrong for being annoyed every night at 3 am. I would be annoyed as well. Especially if I need to get up early or if I go to bed late.
I think you need to find a time that suits both, not only you.
Nevertheless, if none of you are willing to compromise, I believe the two of you should find other people who will enjoy and fulfill you.
2007-01-31 22:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if hes got to get up early to go to work the next morning, then its not really a good time. I am not a Morning person either, and prefer it before bedtime at night. That way we both seem to sleep better. Maybe you need a good Vibrator. I mean if your man is not meeting your needs, and women have needs just like men do, we gotta do what we gotta do. Try not giving him anything for awhile. He will get "Needy" before too long ..
2007-01-31 22:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm gonna be frank with you... would you want to be wakened, to receive a service that you didn't ask for in the first place? At 3 a.m., I am dead to the world, & anybody that wakes me from my glorious sleep, will end up dead too!! Be more considerate of your boyfriend, & if you feel the need to give brain surgery that badly, why don't you invest in a dildo.
2007-01-31 22:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, relationships are not just all about sex, and maybe that is the problem...maybe he just wants to talk to you, or watch a movie with you without feeling like you want to jump on him...even though surveys say that guys think about something sexual every 2.3 seconds, just because they are thinking about does not mean they want it....sometimes guys just want to hold their woman, believe it or not guys have sensitive sides....I can see why he would get annoyed if you wake him, people are cranky at that hour, maybe you should make some little sacrifices, maybe if you see he is feeling in the mood, you could sacrifice the fact that you are not horny and get it on with him anyway...maybe its time you 2 just sat down and talked about it...
2007-01-31 22:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by fritnit1349 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really think you deserve better, you need someone who is more in tune with your needs. It could be he has a "low" sexual desire - which doesn't help in your situation. Also, it could mean he's not really into you, it might be a good idea to look for someone else. If you love him, stick around, if not, move on find that special someone for you.
2007-01-31 22:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your the one whos wrong what do you mean you only get in the mood at 3 am whats wrong with you and as much as us guys like oral it would be anoying at 3 in the morning once would be cool though
2007-01-31 22:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by kike_dies 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heh i thinks so i dont know what his problem is he has to spend some good time with you and show you that he wants you...if not just back off sooner or later he is going to want it and tell him your not in the mood and he is just going to want it more hah throw it in his face and just play with him make him want it...sounds crazy but works for me...
2007-01-31 22:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by xX-steve-o-Xx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why can't more women be like you. Tell your bf that he is one of the luckiest men on earth and if he doesn't start to realize that soon there are plenty of other guys out there that will gladly take his place.
2007-01-31 22:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Castle 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋