Here's the thing. I'm 18 and just started the second semester of my college freshman year. There's this beautiful and smart girl in my English class I'm interested in. The problem is that she and I are so different. These are some differences. While I listen to hip-hop and r&b most of the time, she listens to electronica and some rock. I'm a very regimented person while she's somewhat relaxed. She's sort of "bad" girl who smokes cigarettes while I'm a naive dude who is afraid to do things like that. I'm willing to understand her better if I happen to date her. I'm actually so attracted to her because she's so different. However, I've always been told that commonality is very important when it comes to relationships; I've been told that the lack of commonality never leads to a serious relationship. So I'm worried. I am very attracted to the girl and hoping that I get a chance. By the way, I'm not even sure if she's willing to date anyone. Can two vastly different ppl become a couple?
2007-01-31 14:18:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know most people say two different people are the best match for each other. so my answer is yes you'll be a good influence for her to stop smoking. you two would be a great couple.
(I suggest giveing her roses like i did give her 10 red roses nine real roses and one fake then tell her you will love her untill the last rose wilts.)
2007-01-31 14:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by deathstar11223 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley, I think Its the differences in each other that make things work. Most of the time - although its great to have things in common thats not a relationship is about. Its about being able to be vulnerable with each other and be able to show each other new things that they probably wouldnt try without meeting each other. The person you are, is never the person you end up being when you are in a relationship, people change. Have you thought maybe she'slooking for something a bit different from what she has now. You could be it. Get to know her, even if she doesnt want to date stright away, things may develop. You are naive if you think dating her first, then getting to know her is the best way to go. She might not be what you expected. Show her the best side of you, first impressions count.
2007-01-31 14:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, and successful, as long as one person doesn't feel like they have to change in order to make things work. There's that old adage that you've heard forever about 'opposites attract.' I think there's really something to that.
My boyfriend and I are very different in some ways, but we've also found commonality as well (which will come with time). I think you should approach the situation on a 'friends' basis for now, just to test the waters, and see what happens. You shouldn't let this go, or you'll be wondering "what if?" for a long time. Good luck.
2007-01-31 14:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! My husband and I are completely different. The main thing is you both have to be open to eachothers ways. After almost 7 years of being together we have learned to like the same things, he now listens to country music, which he hated in the begining, and I now listen to oldies, which I hated. Many many things are different between us, but we have learned to accept eachothers opinions which is very important. If you are not open then it will not work. You have to be able to listen to what they think or feel, even if you don't agree. I very much believe in opposites working as long as each one is open. Good luck and I hope she's willing to date.
2007-01-31 14:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. If you are too different then it may not work out. You want to have some similarities between the two of you just for getting along and stuff. But then again, I wouldnt date somebody who was like identical to me because I would get annoyed. I love finding things out about people that are different than me
2007-01-31 14:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by *♥Jinx♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doesnt matter i can tell you that much what matters is that both of you are willing to make it right you dont have to change for her and she doesnt have to change for you... havent you heard opposites attract...all you both can do is adjust and it will go great learn what she has to offer and she will learn what you have to offer thats how relationships work you learn the whats that person has and they learn yours and you know what its something new and both of you would probably enjoy it...so my answer is yes different ppl can become a couple it can even become serious if you give it the time it needs but take it slowly anything can come at you and you dont want it to blow up in your face...
2007-01-31 14:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by xX-steve-o-Xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a shot. those differences you mentioned are just visible ones. maybe you two actually perceive some things similarly. maybe start a "friendship" first...that way you can find your common ground. youll never really know until youre in some kind of relationship. Good luck.
2007-01-31 14:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by vincent m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as they love each other,,, yes,, they can
2007-01-31 14:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋