My gf and I got in an argument about trust. She's mad because she feels like when people are dating each other, they should automatically trust each other. But I think trust is something that takes time to grow. She knows that i don't trust her when she's with other guys because i'm afraid that she might cheat on me.
Who's wrong?
2007-01-31 14:13:55 · 8 answers · asked by unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't trust her yet, but i don't think she's done anything wrong. She hung out with other guys and girls during the weekends, and i get worried sometimes.
2007-01-31 14:26:25 · update #1
Well, you are right.....trust is something that has to be built upon, not just given when you say yes to dating. Has she given you any reasons to not trust her when she is with other guys? First off, why is she out with other guys when she should be spending that time with you? Hmmmm, that could raise some doubt, but put the hammer down or you may find yourself hurt
2007-01-31 14:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by forealztho69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right OR wrong.... You should tell her how you feel calmly and in an honest and earnest fashion. In no uncertain terms you should let her know that it makes you uncomfortable when she's out with other guys and give her reasons as to your insecurity. BUT on the other hand, you could be seeing a cheater where there is none. You might actually have a gf that is honestly faithful to you. But always trust your instincts, not your feelings, there is a difference. Your heart may lie to you about how you feel, but your gut knows what it knows.
2007-01-31 22:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by afreeca812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you for the point that trust needs time to build. You don't trust someone you just know for a short time, even she's your gf right now. But nothing's wrong on her theory either. Try to show more respect and trust her. Guess it's part of what a bf's responsibility to do.
2007-01-31 22:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by tictac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is. I'm sorry if that was like offensive but trust takes a long time to build. I think you must really prove yourself and have feelings for the other person in order to trust another person. My ex and I dated for about a year and I still never fully trusted him. I know him as a friend now and I still dont trust him.
2007-01-31 22:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by *♥Jinx♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE!! Stop being jealous of your girlfriend, and focus more on being her boyfriend. Apparently you're being insecured and don't trust your girlfriend around other guys. Yes, you should trust someone until that person gives you a reason not to. Your insecurities can very well lead your girlfriend astray... a complete turn off.
2007-01-31 23:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by motherkc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are both wrong in the situation .... i mean you should trust her not to cheat on you and ...she should understand that in your eyes she has to earn your trust but when she tells you she want cheat you have to trust her to keep her word you have no reason not to trust her ..until she gives you a reason not to
2007-01-31 22:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Erica R@e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasnt given a reason to not trust her you are just being obsessive and a bit controlling.
2007-01-31 22:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her around other guys then you two shouldn't even be dating.
2007-01-31 22:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Hottie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋