I am very sucessful and am not a pain to the eyes. Why is it so hard to meet the right guy?

Question

I don't want to end up old in a shack with a bunch of cats, drinking cheap whiskey and smoking cheap cigarettes.

Answer 1

You know, it's hard to say why love seems to come easily to some and more... slowly to others.

Here is a theory that I came up with a few years ago to console my friends and I when we feel down about this...

If you are the kind of person that is just like everyone else, then you are going to attract a person that is just like everyone else. If you're a majority, you will attract the majority and you'll have loads of men at your feet.

However, if you are unique and unmatched then you will attract a very special person who also has something unique to offer because only that kind of person would truly appreciate you. If you are a minority, then you will attract minorities. Thus, it will take longer for that perfect person to come along because they're aren't as many of them out there. Understand?

I hope this makes sense to you and that it helps.

Answer 2

I can think of a few things that might be your issue...

You might not be meeting enough new people. Some women shut themselves off in a world that consists of their coworkers and their cats, and won't ever get married unless it's the UPS delivery guy. Get a better social life, but also be open to meeting new people at any time where ever you happen to be.

You may not be projecting a very friendly demeanor. Some women develop a permanent frown, others close down and don't interact when they meet someone. Ask friends to honestly evaluate you in those situations.

You may be very picky. That's a good thing, unless you pass the point that you no longer allow for getting together with a person instead of that perfect man who exists only in your mind. Be more realistic about what you're after.

You may simply live in an area where too few of guys live up to realistic standards. You might consider relocating to somewhere with better prospects.

Answer 3

1. stay picky
2. we're not all wussies, but some people are more confident than others
3. join some nice groups in your area. for example, I'm on a zoo auxilliary board. lots of young professionals meeting for drinks, parties, organizing events, etc.
4. get your flirt on. eye contact and a smile go a long way.
5. ALWAYS be ready to meet someone. even if its only perfume.
6. know a little canned knowledge about the local sports scene.

remember, the game of dating is fun if you don't put pressure on yourself

Answer 4

It will all come together when you are least expecting it to happen. In the mean time enjoy your success and making friends. The other pieces to the puzzle will fall in place in good time. Beware of the Wolves and protect your honor. Mr right will come along when the time is right, and you will know with ALL your heart.

Answer 5

It depends on what your definition of "the right guy" is.
Perhaps you're stuck on a fantasy version or you're just setting your standards a little too high.
Try giving the nice guys, who themselves aren't a pain to eyes, a chance.

Answer 6

Meeting the right guy takes time, but meeting other guys who isn't the one for you is easy.

Answer 7

So just think about being on a boat, drinking champange and soaking the sun......lol 8 )

Answer 8

The right guy works alot and has a busy life of his own, or he's already married.

Answer 9

Welcome to my world, except I'm a guy. I feel I'm going to end up the same way you described; minus the cats.

Answer 10

maybe the guys arnt the problem you are maybe your just to picky or maybe your right and every guy you have ever meet is just not good enough for you!!