Some days I find myself to be very confident and passive, and other days I am terrified to even look at my boss, for I live in fear of him. Even while I am at home, or laying in bed getting ready to fall asleep, I get these overwhelming feelings of "Ohmygosh, what if he fires me? What if he yells at me? What if he screams at me????" Until I'm in a complete tizzy. Other times I feel ok, like I'm better than him and that karma is a true thing. Why am I teetering between my insecurity and my confidence? And why outside of work, as well as during my working hours? PS- The whole story is way too long to post, basically I will not be in this situation forever, but MUST endure it for a while longer. It's been about 6 years and each year is getting worse than the one before. He has screamed at me, gotten in my face, questioned my marriage (in front of co-workers, might I add), called my a *)$)^&) workless *&^$%&$, etc. And yes, my human resource dept does NOTHING about it to my knowledge....
2007-01-31 13:53:26 · 4 answers · asked by SadToday22 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes emotional abuse can cause anxiety outside of work. I mean you're pondering about your boss before bed....stressing yourself out. The next time your boss gets in your face like that Look him in the eye and tell him that you do not deserve to be treated like that and that you will not tolerate his unprofessional attitude. Let your human resource department know what's going on. If they do nothing about it, go to a higher authority. You do not deserve to be treated like this, just because he's your boss he has no right to get in your face and intimidate you and scare you. You can take legal actions if your work does nothing to handle this situation.
2007-01-31 14:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetbulbs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course, abuse is abuse and will affect you in all ways. I was very emotionally abused as a child by a parent and I am still a walking casualty despite all I have done in my life. It doesnt have to be this bad for you, he is your boss, you can walk out of your job but you may feel you cant do this but you should if you can get another one. I was so affected by my childhood abuse that in the end in my latter years it all came down on top of me and I just couldnt work any more because abuse causes one not to be able to deal with other issues as effectively if they hadnt been abused. Emotional abuse is as damaging as physical/sexual believe me. You will need to get counselling, find the right person to talk to outside of work, find someone you feel comfortable with, shop around, I live in Australia, talking to different people helped me answer a lot of my own stuff - I went for a job yesterday, Im terrified really, first day today I got told off for talking too much but I was just so pleased really to be back out there. You need a job that makes you happy, nobody deserves a boss like that. I was literally emotionally beaten to a pulp once by a former boss, I took two weeks off and ignored her for a very long time. She resigned in the end, she said I was the best kind of worker and she had the problem and needed to take time out for a while. Your boss sure has a problem too. Let me know how you get on.
2007-01-31 14:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your first question, "yes", you definitely can have anxiety outside of work.
I had a boss who just was a B----! I'm a pretty strong person, but she really wore me down. I got to the point of being almost fearful of her! I look back now and can't believe it. She just totally got to me. I can't believe it now, but...
You need to find another job. He will never see you as a worthwhile person. He will always try to beat you down. There is honesty no way this will ever work out.
I don't want to be a downer, but your really need to get out now!
2007-01-31 14:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by mhcgjl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could go outside of your h.r. dept.and yes anyone who is a big enough jerk can mess your whole life up.you could also try on one of your good days talk to him.though i do suspect that
wouldnt work for him.you could try the head office if there is one.
or a lawyer.he will get the message loud and clear if a lawyer calls him.just the options i could think of.
2007-01-31 18:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋