It is my second marriage, the first for my fiance..She is a doll, I am the luckiest man in the world,,,but,,,her stress is about to send me over the edge!! One day on an emotional high, the next day I am not doing anything right. I just love her, agree with her, send her lots and lots of flowers and count down the next 8 days...Am I doing the right thing???
2007-01-31 13:49:17 · 11 answers · asked by hunter65 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You sound like a great guy...keep it up!
2007-01-31 13:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by woohoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is certainly the most important for her. women grow up always dreaming about having the dream wedding of their lives. mayb becos they read too much fairy tale stories when they were young. so b patient n extra gracious during this period. 2ndly, cld she be edgy becos there r things still not done for the big day? becos of their idealistic expectatns, she's surely going to be super anxious n irritated with everything else that seems to be distracting or slowing her down from getting every single thing done b4 that day. so don just keep buyg flowers, but ask if u can help get anythg done fr her 'mus do or die' list. also for ur sake, i hope this edgy thing u r talking about is not a regular thing in ur relationship with her. if it is u need to have a gd talk with her about making feelings n expectations known in a calm or less threatening way. sort of like being assertive but in a civil way. otherwise over time i foresee u r going to be tired with her petty nonsense n nagging, n soon you'll be asking the same question right here for ur third marriage.. gd luck (but actually luck has nothing to do with it but hard work n humility!)
2007-01-31 23:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by NikitaFan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are doing the only thing you can right now... just continue to be supportive for the next 8 days. SHe is stressed out, and you are stressed out, but soon the stress of the wedding will be over and you can relax into your normal selves to enjoy what really matters... the marriage.
2007-01-31 21:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Stand by her and just remember that this is a stressful time and different people deal with it different ways. One thing that may help her relax a little (and she will really appreciate!!) is surprise her with a few hours of relaxation and beauty at a spa. Many spas even have couples packages where you two can enjoy it together. That way you both can relax, take your mind off of the wedding for a bit, and spend some time together. Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-01-31 22:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by MichelleAkaMich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very stressed. Send her for a spa day and get her a relaxation massage. Hey, maybe get her two days worth. I'm sure she's just having a hard time right now. But do tell her how she is making you feel. Maybe you will both feel less stressed after having a good heart to heart talk. After all... she will soon be your wife.Good luck.
2007-01-31 22:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by inquirygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good soon-to-be-husband! It's a big day and I am sure she is on an emotional rollercoaster with all of the excitment and stress. Give her these 8 days to wig out, and then on the honeymoon she should be relaxed and back to normal! Best of luck and congratulations!
2007-01-31 21:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations!! getting married is one of the most stressful time in womens lives. try to understand and keep showing her you love her. she doesn't act like that everyday and after you get marry. she'll get back to her normal self. stress can put you to the edge easily so try and be patient as much as you can. its your wedding but to her, its all about her...which is true. during weddings everybody pays more attention to the bride than the groom. so just roll with the punches and she'll get over it once the wedding is over. try and have fun, suppose to be the happiest and fun day of your lives.
2007-01-31 22:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just give her some space, agree with her in most things that you think are right, and just take it easy on her, because this is her wedding!
2007-01-31 22:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by ~Val~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space for 8 days. Then for the next 8 days after the wedding, make her give you the same. Take separate honeymoons.
2007-01-31 21:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
be Patience let her fuss it's her first. then love her the same way after the wedding and way after that .that's a woman for you.yes you are doing the right thing.
2007-01-31 22:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by daydreamer_bgi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are doing your best. I hope she looks back and appreciates all the extra effort you've go to. Congratulations and God bless!
2007-01-31 22:28:41 · answer #11 · answered by Stephanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋