My 20yr old best friend suffers from numerous mental problems including depression. To make matters worse she has a drug abuse problem. We have been friends for 8 years. Over the last year i have seeked help for my own depression and drug problem. When she gets angry she is irrational, unreasonable and can be violent. I have never been on the recieving end of this anger until two months ago. I have tried everything to resolve the issue but am getting no where. I don't want to lose her but am losing motivation to resolve the issue (which is a very minor problem).
2007-01-31 13:16:11 · 6 answers · asked by loretta k 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
walk softly.... carry a BIG stick..
2007-02-02 08:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part where you took the blame and vocally expressed it might have been why you feel rejected. Well in order to get to any type of communication, both usually agree to meet there. Don't take it too personal. I'm sure he is feeling similar. At one time, your thoughts in communication was true. You know what you knew and had experience to back it up. There seems to have been an agreement to disagree on certain ideas also. I think the feeling is natural and temporary to feel rejected. It's always a learning experience and even the greatest thinkers might have had situations that could be displayed as setbacks. No matter what it is really a part of moving forward in a way. You can bring up the past and relive it over and over or use what you can and keep pressing on. I'm not sure exactly how close this person is but everyone seems to feel right about somethings in their lives. If communication closes, please do not assume the worst. Try to stay positive. Instead of the silent treatment, view it as patience. Its an idea that might work. If I were you, I would find ways to relax for a while until the positive energy comes back. You know what helps you most. Maybe some type of charity or thinking of things others have done to help you get where you are. The beauty of life is always there and you surely know this to be true. I have seen your inquires and it helps me interpret beauty from that perspective as well. Good afternoon. --corey
2016-05-24 00:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life we learn we cannot lose what never was ours. We also have to accept that there are changes that life makes in each of us. The worst for me was seeing there was a false image there in the first place. As a close friend or relative becomes older they no longer want to be secretive and their real personality is exposed. This is the way the old gang breaks up. High school is over. Only new associations now will be proper. Find those that are like yourself. I mean on the same waveband.
2007-01-31 16:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to let go. This relationship will turn into you being scared to be yourself for fear of how your friend may react, and thats not good. It isn't up to you to fix her. You can help your own depression by having a spring clean of your life. Weigh up your relationships. Those that have become toxic, as this one has, need to end. Harsh but fair. Gravitate towards people who support you and leave you feeling good at the end of the visit.
Yes it seems dramatic but I can tell you from experience that this is a really good measure to take. Your world will become a better place.
2007-01-31 17:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
above answerers have it right You need to concentrate on you first then being a friend to others
2007-01-31 21:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to friend to go in counseling and talk about what u are worried and concerned about calmly rationally with concern
2007-02-03 18:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋