My future sister in law picked out a dress that I did not initially like...but did not think it would be that bad since I was planning on losing weight anyways. Well I finally got into the sample size at the bridal shop...my sil wants to have dresses ordered by 2-11-07. I tried on dress and there is no way it is going to support my chest even if I do lose weight because I will always have a chest. I want to tell her that I do not think it would flatter me and that I am not going to be comfortable in the dress...but it is last minute for her. I have been trying to find similar alternatives with same company so we can keep same color and price...I don't just want to throw it on her ...i want to give her options on what I would be comfortable in since it is last minute. Other bridesmaids are tall and thin...so if they look ok in the current chosen dress...they will look ok in a similar dress. SHould I tell her what I think or should I just order the dress and pray it will support me then?
2007-01-31 12:46:33 · 12 answers · asked by k_reile 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
there are many bras out there where the straps are concealed or a good cup can be sewn into the dress; the dress shop usually has a great seamstress who can address your concerns; you won't be the first nor last; my dress they completely revamped it ; I couldn't even close the back ; needed about 3 inches; they were amazing, fit me like a glove; it is all in the miracle worker the seamstress ; they want you to look good so talk to them about your concerns; this can be done at your fitting and no one needs to know; they have the experience and believe me that will know how to address the issue; that is their job
2007-01-31 12:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by sml 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Address your concerns with the bride before taking any action. You ma get special exception to wear a different dress than the other bridesmaids (all of my bridesmaids looked different, they just had to wear the same color) - this can be especially true if you're the maid of honor. Have an alternative dress to show her (or at least a picture) when you talk to her. I would not request that all the bridesmaids change, just yourself (If they're tall and thin there's no guarantee they'll look good in a dress for a busty gal). Try to express it in terms of not wanting to ruin the look of her day by hanging out of the dress.
If the bride refuses to budge then it's time to go to the bra store (you may want to do this anyway). Go to Victoria Secret and get fitted and tell them your problem. There are all sorts of options for us busty gals these days (strapless and even some backless).
Hope this helps
2007-01-31 13:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you get fitted for a really good support bra and go with the dress she chose. It is so close to the ordering date you don't want to throw her a curve. Has she seen this dress on you? Perhaps she will come to the same conclusion. Are you the maid of honor? I have seen weddings where the MOH wears a different style dress. Have you seen another dress that would be better for you? If so, show it to her. If not, just go with the flow.
2007-01-31 13:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the dress and a body shaper. I'll put a link to a pretty good one. I faced the same dilema and everything was just fine. The bridal shop should have a selection of these to choose from - ask them for some to try on with the dress. They're pricey, but worth every darn penny.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 03:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely talk to the bride. you are going to be wearing the dress, and you have to be comfortable.
i've been to lots of weddings where the bridesmaids where different styles of dresses, but in the same color, as you suggested....so, if you change your dress style, it doesn't mean that the other bridesmaid have to change, too, unless the bride demands it. but hey, some of the other girls could be feeling the same way.
good luck!
2007-01-31 12:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I agree with most other answers on here, but in this case, my initial feelings were of disagreement. Afterall, the wedding isn't about you (sorry to say). Brides are under a lot of stress planning the wedding, and you did already agree to the dresss she chose. Think of the other bridesmaids as well.
If you choose to talk to the bride, please, for her sake, do it immediately to minimize the upheaval for all concerned.
2007-01-31 13:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the bride. Approach the subject gently and calmly and explain in detail why you think you might have issues. Nobody wants a bridesmaid falling out of her dress in their wedding photos.
2007-01-31 12:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her what you think. If worse comes to worse she'll be like "oh well" and you have to wear it anyways. But if things go well she might just understand where you are coming from and go with a different dress.
Any ways... Good luck!
2007-01-31 12:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got in no way seen it until now. It sounds like an ok theory, if that's what you may sense mushy wearing. i might cut decrease back decrease back on the rhinestones although, that is going to easily make it look like somebody went loopy with a Bedazzler.
2016-11-02 00:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by ridinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. If she is insistant on that dress you will have to suck it up :( Just find a really good long line support bra and you should be fine.
2007-01-31 14:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋