I am done with college and working a small low paying job right now in a small town where my girlfriend goes to school. I have family in another state in a large city with LOTS of career opportunities for me but there are none here in this small town, however she is in school for 4 more years. Do I stay and work at the small job and not pursue my career, or do I move to pursue my career and live my life?
Me and my girlfriend have been together 2 years, We have stupid arguments once and awhile and she gets jealous easily, doesnt ever want me to go out with friends and I cant ever talk to girls that are just friends, but I do still love her.
What do I do? Thanks!
2007-01-31 12:45:17 · 8 answers · asked by sdnz32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW...i would DEF say go and live your life! pursue your dream!! if you guys are truly truly meant to be you will end up together!!! just get that through her head when you argue you are leaving!! YES YES YES it will b a huuuuuuuuge step to take alone and probably frustrating...getting started and doing the first step is ALWAYS the hardest... but you have FAMILY there...they are always open for comfort they are always there to help you!!! i would def say go and live your life dream! go be successful then if yall r still talking and together after shes outta school you'll have more money to start your lives together!!
goodluck and please do whats best for you...you can only do so much for other people...but once n a while you need to look in the mirror and help yourself!
2007-01-31 12:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by roxybeach793 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow you say that she relays on you and she can’t make choices on her own out there. It seems that you guys have a lot in common. You don’t love her as a woman, only as a friend, you are still in school and you want to date other people, you strong believe that you will have a promising career and you are afraid that she will be an obstacle in your life. Now you are here asking for advice that you can’t even think on your own either. Boys are always going to be boys… What I can give you is to follow your heart and your dreams. Move out from HER apartment and start a new life on your own, so you will feel free to date again, to find that promising job and maybe find love. Also don’t worry about the leasing as you said she works so she can afford it on her own. I think you should tell her about it and you might be surprise with her answer. She might be tired of you as well and she might want to see other people as well. But once you guys breakup don’t try to tell her that you could be friends still and live together, just not as bf and gf because it won’t work. Be a mature man and make the right choice which is leaving her for good. She will suffer but she will get over it. You might be blocking her promising life with someone else by staying in her wings…
2016-05-24 00:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide whats more important, her or your career opportunities, if you are already asking this question that means you are not happy and even if you still love her you will resent her for all the time wasted waiting while she finishes school. Tell her you need to have a long distance relationship or move on to your life, quickly before you get stuck.
2007-01-31 12:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you stay with her and things dont work out then you will feel like she held you back from your career for no reason. On the other hand if things do work is she going to move with you if you leave the small town. Staying there cause of her is holding you back and i dont know how important a bigh career is to you but you sill start to resent her for holding you back.
2007-01-31 13:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it is to live like this, and trust me, it's not pretty. If I could do it all over again, I would never have lived my life for someone else(but my children). It may be time for you to start living for you, not her. It is all up to you, but in the end , who will be there for you when you need them the most? Most likely, your family. You must take control of your own life and do what is best for YOU. Take care, and sometimes you must think with your whole self, not just with your heart....
2007-01-31 12:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by marshmom2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every partnership requires compromise.
However, marriage requires money as well
as love..
You need to decide what is best for both
of you down the road.
What is best now, might not be what is best,
four years from now.
If you have a true bond, it will still be there
when she finishes college.
2007-01-31 12:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by kyle.keyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've already made up your mind and you just need validation. You've worked long and hard to get your degree, don't waste it! If things are meant to be between the two of you then they're meant to be. It's YOUR life. Good luck and best wishes!
2007-01-31 12:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are young. I say follow your career. She can always visit or you can always visit. If it was meant to be you will get back together sooner or later.
Long distance relationships can work only if it was meant to be.
2007-01-31 12:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋