i really miss my ex. its been 2 and a haf years. more when open this up.?

Question

i guess girls will know what i mean more than the typical guy. how do you get over what i feel like is a nightmare every day? i since have seen a few ladies and liked them but my soul keeps crying for one person. its ruining my chances with whoever i see. even tho i put the new girl first. i am in love with a woman but my heart and soulstill puts my ex back in my mind after all this time. i think its because i cant finish it in my mind as she moved back to finland when we split. if any firl can help please i need it right now. xx

Answer 1

You will never get over her, but eventually you willll find someone to replace her whom you will love equally .Just give it more time until you meet miss right.

Answer 2

And this guy knows what you mean, too. Closure. Some kind of an end to it. Time will help you, but what you are doing is right on. You are reaching out for connection and support and strength and you are not holding it in and going around in circles, which is what a lot of guys do. Closure. Pain. Tears. Mental pictures which keep coming back to you. Yes. Awful. At some point you will regain enough strength from remembering who you are to emerge from this whole thing, but right now your pain and suffering are a real thing inside you so what you are doing by reaching out is absolutely right and perfect self care. Taking care of you is the most important thing in the world, and seeking help for this pain and upset inside you is how you find that self care - from the many things others bring to you to help you heal. Some will place thoughts before you... some will place prayers... some will write to you like this to assure you that you are not alone while you go through it all. I think that is the one which would help me the most - knowing that others really do give a damn about how much you hurt inside and how you are stuck in a particular place in time, and know that you need to move on, but know equally that that time has not yet come... it is a feeling of suspended animation, isn't it? Well, I am sending you strong healing and loving energies this evening from South Portland, Maine, U.S.A., and I hope you begin to draw strength soon. Thank you ever so much for opening up enough to tell us how upset you are. I appreciate the honesty and candor because I know how much strength of character it takes to be open like this and say it exactly the way it really is for you, inside. With love and support from Chris. (I am 63 years old, and I have been through a version of this in my own life, so I have an idea of what you are going through...)

Answer 3

Rejection sucks. It always have that side effects of you wanting to be more so they can love you more or back. But dude you just got to let her go. And let all the grudge you hold on her go. Forgive her and forgive yourself.
You have the power of love at your hands. And it is what you do with it that counts. Don't waste too much of your time pondering if you could've gone that extra mile. Another girl could use that love. Even if it's just a little. It will do great wonders.
Beside that if you want to distract yourself there's many people out there that can use a hand. Sometimes/where in your life you will find it better to see others happy with what you can do with your two hand, far greater then anything. Instead of expecting someone to give you something.

Answer 4

You need to grieve it until you can't grieve anymore. If that means tears then so be it. I know, I've done it.
I had to accept that I will always hold a love for the special people in my life, but I will never get back what I had.
So what do I choose to do.
Do I spend yet another day filling my mind with what could have been, knowing that it never will. A vicious circle.
Or do I get selfish and start thinking about myself and other things in my life.
I've been single for 3 years now, and I have to say I'm reasonably happy. I admit that I do miss the intimate evenings, but you can't have everything.
I don't go out trying to replace what I had either. That would make things worse.
Just go from day to day, and If something happens it will. Don't try to force it.

Answer 5

Why do you love your ex?

You have to address the reaons you can't move on. Dating around obviously isn't solving anything. Instead you need to look isntead of you and look at that relationship.

Why do you love her so much?
Why did you break up?

Having her in Finland actually helps because you don't have to see her each day.

Try this: don't worry about dating. Don't worry about your ex. Take your friends and go on a vacation--a guy adventure. Do something to bond and get your mind away from her.

It's been nearly three years. You need to move on. Start working out, paint a room, get rid of EVERYTHING that reminds you of her, even if that means moving.

Answer 6

you really are confused.
have you talked to her
don't write trust me do not write to her.
any way GET OVER IT
when you meet some one special you will forget all about her (definitely)- there are loads of special women out there but its all about timing
don't just move on to the next woman because your lonely. that will just ruin your chances with them & what you are doing is wasting there time.
your still on the rebound even after this amount of time (i know i was on the rebound for 5 years trying to fall in love with the wrong girls, wasteing there time & mine)
for that i sincerely appologise but time is a great healer.
stop mpeing about,, get a hobby, start enjoying life.
& in this you have the answer because when your happy in yourself & high in self asteem women will appreciate you more & your chances of finding real love will increase.
hope this helps yer noggin.

Answer 7

sorry m8 there is no magic spell
and no one can answer this one for you either
i must sound like im taking the pi** or being really cold to u
but i mean u no disrespect but anyone who has been in a situation to do with losing someone like yourself will hopefully have found a way that helped themselves cope with there dilemma try spending some(YOU) time, no time limit and when your happy in yourself then maybe you can make someone else,s life a little brighter just for getting to really know you
good luck
i lost a girl i loved so much 8 years gone by now its easier for me 2 cope with.now im happy she was in my life and i try giving my new girlfriend all the love and trust i would have given my ex.i would neva want to forget her but idont ever want to lose my partner im with now i really love her too now so that is what,s working for me but u will have to hopefully find ur best way( FOR-YOU) all the best in the future to you anyway see ya ; )

Answer 8

Getting over a girl is easy if you can learn to hate them. Obviously you never felt badly about this girl and probably still love her. If you cant find a way to hate her then maybe you need to contact her and find out first hand that she is with someone else or better still see for yourself. It may be the only way to free yourself to safeguard your future

Answer 9

I hear you man. I was with my girlfriend for 3-4 years in my younger days. I was her first, she was mine. And well, all we do is fight so yeah I said forgedaboutit! I still love her though, she's always on my mind, but it never gets to me, because well we broke up for a reason. And I'll stick to that. Move on man!

Answer 10

Everybody goes through this at one point in there life, but you gotta get up and you gotta get out, meat new people do things you really enjoy doing, forget thinking negative thoughts, think positive, you make your own fun, so make yourself happy. and then once your happy someone new will come into your life. Good Luck.