tom moved into my condo complex 4 weeks ago after his divorce.he was the one to pursue me but was always a perfect gentlemen.spent 5 hrs helping me setup my computer,called to thank me for watching a movie with him ect.well it was just freindly stuff till he tryed to kiss me one night.then i asked him what his gf would say(saw him with a blond often)and he looked at me like a was crazy and said thats not my gf shes just an old friend.well when i found that i thought he would make a perfect bf.well after we had sex things changed.then his whole attitude changed he was "colder" towards me almost rude.the only time he ever called was for me to come down for sex.than i found out this "old friend" was not only his gf but the person he left his wife for.how can a guy seem so interested in u then do something like this?
2007-01-31 12:38:53 · 19 answers · asked by janeymorgen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is a master manipulator and only out for himself "for the moment." What it really comes down to though is that he doesn't know how to respect, not even himself, which is why he can't even begin to have a decent relationship. He left his wife for another woman, who he cheated on with you. The reason he got cold is because the "chase" was over. He "captured" you. He knew he wasn't going to "keep" you, but he still wanted to "play" with you. Sorry you had to go through that, but I know you'll be coming out of it wiser if you think about it and learn your lessons from it all.
2007-01-31 12:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that's just how some people are. He used you and now he's not interested. Find things to do that keep you away from home so that he knows you're staying busy. Invite friends over for dinner some night. He'll know that you've moved on and could care less.
Oh, and btw, it was foolish of you to continue to have sex with him. If he's gone back to another woman, no telling how many others he's on got the side.
2007-01-31 12:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but he was just being so nice and seemed so perfect because all he wanted was to have sex with you. He wanted to earn your trust and make you comfortable enough around him to think he wanted more than sex. But once you had sex with him, he got what he wanted. He feels no need to act nice any more. Stop talking to this guy. He's a player. Guys like this are just assholes. Maybe you should mention something when he's with him girlfriend. Then she'll know once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-01-31 12:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew, your story sounds so close to what happened to me. How can someone look you in the eye and lie to you just to get what they want. Sorry but I think he only saw you for sex. Now I make sure there is a commitment of some sort.
I know this sounds bad, but I would get even. I would confront the girl if you have a chance to let her know he cheated on her.
2007-01-31 12:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because life isnt all peace and luv.. Just because a guy is perfect around you and seems sweet doesnt mean you really know him Gather the facts from friends (most trustworthy) or the guy himself (he may lie and sometimes you can tell) Dont change your attitude towards guys though This kind of thing ( cheating etc.) happened to my friends and they gave up on guys soon afterwards Dont let that happen to you There is the perfect guy for you out there You just need to find him
2007-01-31 12:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by ஐﻬ уαмι ηι cнιяυ ѕαкυяα ﻬஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not worth you worrying about, thank your lucky stars that you found out now what a creep and user he is. You deserve better. If he calls again, hang up, if he says hi in passing say hi but keep moving. You had sex with him, and the next time he did call it was for sex again, he is a bum, no wonder he is divorced.
2007-01-31 12:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple sweety......they want what they cant have. They will do anything they can to get it and then once they do, the challenge is gone and they no longer want it.
Simple.
Sorry you had to see it this way, but you will see more of it in your lifetime, whether it be with you or your friends. Men are men, no matter how you stack them.
Find a good man hun. Hes a user. Move on.
2007-01-31 12:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants a booty call or piece from you. Forgedaboutit, he don't need you, he just wants you. If someone's attitude changes or behavior changes in 4 weeks, that's not a good sign at all. You know what would be funny, if you kick him outa your apartment and move onto someone who is "real" and "honest" to you.
2007-01-31 12:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I think I know this guy! But his name is not Tom. Exact scenario, the condo, the computer and the movie. I could be the blonde. Do not walk... RUN!
2007-01-31 16:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by reginammorrow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you put out so easily. Men are in it for the sex not a commitment and women want a commitment. If you cant handle casual sex then dont put out.
2007-01-31 12:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋