Ok my friend is gettin married....she got engaged on her 16th b-day....i mean i am happy for her, but i don't think it is the right thing for her.....I never met this guy and she only knew him for only 2 weeks.....i don't think it is right, but i don't know how to tell her....can someone help me????
2007-01-31 12:35:20 · 15 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Be a good friend & be there for her. Though I would have to agree that getting married so quickly & so young may not be the best action. Hopefully she & her boyfriend will realize that if it's meant to be they can wait it out.
2007-01-31 12:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by ~M~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smack her upside the head! Not literally, unless nothing else works. Your friend needs a serious reality check - she is way too young, first of all. Second of all, she cannot possibly actually know him after only two weeks. Honestly, I'd try to get her away from the guy, too, because the situation just doesn't seem right to me...
Seriously, before you use force, try to just talk to her about it - she likely has absolutely no idea what she's getting into, and there's a good chance she won't even like the guy in a few months. Or less, for that matter...
2007-01-31 14:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit back and support her, or at least act like you do. they are SO young that it will work itself out, there's no way they will get married any time soon. be that because its illegal in your state, or her parents wont approve, or the most likely scenario, they have only known each other for 2 weeks and THEY will realize that its NOT gonna happen. the bottom line is that this is a VERY young and new relationship, and i dont think you should worry or risk your friendship by saying anything anytime soon. if they still plan to get married in a few months, or even a year, see how you feel about it then, and decide whether or not to sit her down and talk to her if you see fit.
2007-01-31 20:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by crazydaisyodu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...first of all...don't panic. There is a good way to go about this. Have you talked to her parents? I am almost positive that she will need their consent to get married....also, get someone who is close in age, but not oo young....like in their 20's to talk to het about the responsibilities of marriage. If the person is too old, she will rebel and do exactly to opposite, but if she can somehow relate to the younger person, she might actually see what she is doing to premature and unnecessary. I told my younger counsin that she would go through so many more guys before she found the one....she didn't believe me until she started experiencing it herself...but that's the way ot goes. Unfortunately, due to human nature, people will often do exactly the opposite of what they are advised...especially teenagers...no offense...but that is what I did. I thought i knew everything and guess what...I am 27 and I still don't. There is no need to rush. There is high school to finish, college life and the rest of life just waiting to be explored. She won't get these opportunities if she gets married. She'll become a high school dropout...which isn't good. Ultimately...don't follow in her shoes.
2007-01-31 16:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! 2 weeks....Not good. People change soo much over time.. I am 25 and I am a totally different person than who I was at 16. And the goof's that you think you are "in-love" with at that age, you realize later what a mistake that was and thank god that you moved on. I would urge you to talk to her. A friend of mine met a guy when she was 21, married him 6 months later, and then divorced him 5 months after that. Now she is 25 and divorced. Talk to her...What's the rush?
2007-01-31 12:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell. Try to convince her into a long engagement. All an engagement is, is a promise to marry someone. How many promises have you seen broken? Don't panic she'll wake up, hopefully before the wedding.
2007-01-31 12:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by tiki/more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant know if she is in love or not..but its def not the right thing to get married at 16. What does her parents think about this? I would talk to her. Let her know if she loves him and he loves her why can they not wait till they are atleast 18. I fell in love with my fiance now at 18..we knew we wanted to get married...now im going to be 22 and we are getting married. we waited bc we loved each other. Communication is the right thing..you are her friend..she'll prob be mad..but at least you are letting her know your feelings. Also..is this guy her age or is he older? If he's older he could be pressuring her.
2007-01-31 14:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by ALF08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her in a nice way. she needs to know that it;s not the right time for this. She is only 16. Atleast wait 2-4 more years.
2007-01-31 12:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks is not long enough for her to know him!!! and anyway, she needs parental consent to marry him, since she is still a minor. there is not much you can do if her paretns give her permisssion, but she needs to get to know thus guy a lotbetter before entering into marriage with him. getting married isn't a game, it's a serious thing, for mature adults, which no offense, she isn't at this point adn time.
2007-01-31 13:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how two people could possibly get to know each other well enough to know that they want to spend the rest of their lives together in 2 weeks time. It's almost certainly a horrible idea.
2007-01-31 12:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by stickymongoose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋