To make the story short: I have a b/f and for about a week (actually, ever since Friday the 26th), I've been feeling a little empty. I'm not sure about my feelings about him anymore, it's been basically four months. The thing is, when I see him and after I see him - I'm always really happy, and when I talk to him on the phone or after, I'm always really happy. When I think about nice things he's said to me in the past, I smile and become really happy. But we never really get to hang out a lot and other than what I just mentioned, I can't tell whether or not I still really like him as a b/f or just as a person. And to top it off, there's this other guy who basically blatantly stated he likes me (you'll know from my other question titled TWO GUYS) and even though I DON'T like him that way, I feel guilty that he likes me and I was even talking to him AND my b/f at the same time online. The other guy is nice and funny as a friend.
In reference to my b/f, I feel obligated...
2007-01-31 12:32:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...as if I have to do something. But the problem is that I don't know what it is I feel obligated to.
In reference to the other guy - I'm not planning on dumping my b/f to get him, it's just that in addition to my confusion about my relationship, he just happened to enter at the wrong time!
I'm confused. The bottom line is I really like my b/f but I'm unsure how to place my feelings for him on a scale. What should I do?
2007-01-31 12:34:16 · update #1
reading that i can tell you still love your bf you just need to spend a little more time together i think...giving up without trying is harsh tell him how you feel, that you want to spend more time with him, but even if you can't see each other often i'm sure a phone call or chatting online isn't too far fetched is it? imagine ppl who do long distance relationships, they don't get to see each other often but they can survive, and you can too as long as you put your heart into it.
2007-01-31 12:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by fallen_angel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I'm in a very similar situation. I have been dating a guy for about 2 months now and did last year for about 2 months as well. I just can't decide if I like him as a bf or like him as a friend and his company as a friend. I usually give myself 2 months to decide if it's going to work with a guy or not. I generally feel you can know in that amount of time. So I'm thinking that if you are questioning it after 4 then you're either not ready for a relationship or you just don't have those feelings for him. If it's meant to be..it'll be. You'll find a way back to one another if you're supposed to. G/l...I'm right there with ya! And the only problem with talking to him about it (bc I did with my bf) is that he told me that he liked me a lot and wanted to be with me but it was my choice and only I could make that choice...which didn't help in my decision.
2007-01-31 20:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kelley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns. You two are going to have to figure this out on your own. Remember you are not married and if it doesn't work out it's not the end of the world for you, even if you have had sex with this person. And if it does end between the two of you try and make it a good split where you two can still be friends.
As to the other guy just make sure he knows you are not into him and still into your boyfriend.
2007-01-31 20:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by InvicibleStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as to the other guy you should not feel the least bit guilty as you did was talk to him! and as to your b/f well maybe you could make a list of pros & cons about your feelings and your relationship with him, and just think about this too if you were to have your b/f exit your life compleatly would you be happy? or would you be blue and sad? because if you would be blue and sad that probalby means that you love him! and if you would be happy then that probably means that your not in love with him! anyhow don't feel obligated to anythig either! analize your feelings and think for awhile, then if you need to talk to your b/f see how he feels about you and your realtionship! and if you decide to contuinue on with the relationship then you and your b/f both need to make more time to spend with each other in order for your relationship to progress and make you both happy! good luck!
2007-01-31 20:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut. Do what is right for you. When away from your b/f (or even when you're with him), are you thinking/looking at him or at other guys? If you don't like the other guy, then you don't period, nothing to feel guilty about. But maybe he represents that "someone else" you could meet and fall for. Weigh what would make you the happiest: Are you happier single than with your b/f? Or are you happier staying with him?
2007-01-31 20:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by joie_du_cor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, this is all normal, and you'll all be fine.
You may have several people you like or that like you for the rest of your life... Your part is to pick one (at a time, hopefully).
Either you like your bf enough to try and spend more time with him, or you're interested in trying someone new who likes you already.
You're probably young, which is why you're asking this, but believe me, no matter who you pick as your bf, you're going to be just fine! Have fun! Get to know lots of guys! Date lots of guys and learn what you like and don't like so you'll be able to find "the one" someday. If an ex bf gets mad--who cares? One day you'll both be old enough to laugh and get over it, so why wait? Just get over it now and save the drama for soap operas.
2007-01-31 20:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like, the bf and the new guy, should just be your friends at this time.Then, the one who "wins your heart" will be you bf. This being friends with both, will help erase the "guilt" you feel towards your bf, and will also let this other guy get to know you-and you, he. Plus, you will be able to tell how you feel about your bf, and this other guy too. Friendshiip is a good thing. Regardless. Take care.
2007-01-31 20:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your future, who do you see yourself with. Your heart knows what it wants. Even if you get a little confused. It sounds like your bf makes you really happy. Your sad when you don't see him. It sounds like you have strong feelings for him.
2007-01-31 20:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by kakie829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive been threw this before
i think u guys would be better as just friends
u shouldnt date him unless u know how u feel bout him
oh and give the other guy a chance u dont know till u try it out
how do u know those jeans are amazing?
u try them on lol
just try it
2007-01-31 20:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to see if you still feel something for your B/F if you dont try to explain that you dont feel like before when your relationship started.
2007-01-31 20:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋