Can someone send me anything that deals with christian divorce in a positive manor. I have a friend who is suffering extreme depression as they are a christian who is getting divorced from someone who treated them very badly, and now feels their own life is over. They would like to have children etc but as a believer would like to do so within a marriage but believe now they are divorced they can never re-marry and therefore their own life is now over.
2007-01-31 12:23:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Please don't quote adultery, there wasn't any, there was abuse.
2007-01-31 12:36:43 · update #1
more fool them for believing in mumbo jumbo
2007-01-31 12:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bob Danvers-Walker 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The teaching in the Church of England is that a person can get married again in church, provided that the person they wish to marry wasn't instrumental in the break down of the marriage. If her ex treated her badly and she didn't get into a relationship with someone else whilst still married and living with him, then most priests these days will be happy to conduct a marriage ceremony for her.
If she is Roman Catholic or in a fundamentalist church, she may not get such a response. Alot depends on the church she belongs to.
Her life certainly is not over - it's taking a new turn.
Tell her that God knows what she's going through and that he's with her - Tell her to read Isaiah 43 - whatever she's going through it won't overwhelm her or be too much for her - God loves her, she's precious to him.
I'l pray for her tonight.
2007-01-31 20:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Star 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your friend read the gospel of John. The story of the woman in the well is in there. She was married several times and when she met Jesus was living with a man who was not her husband. Still, he made her the preacher of that town. If he believes in us, who are we not to?
Yes, your Christian friend can remarry and have children. You know why? Because Christ covered ALL sins on the cross. I'm not insinuating that getting a divorce is sinful (I got one two years ago), but we are alive and free in Christ. He takes them away from us so we are not longer trapped by them. Her life is not over! Perhaps, like in my situation, this is just another part of the process called life where God is getting her from point A to point B. "God so loved the Earth..." that's why He sent Christ. Why would he go through all that trouble if He was just going to turn His back on us the minute we mess up? Oh, BTW, we're designed to mess up.
I pray your friend accepts the joy and constant peace that Christ provides.
2007-01-31 21:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Julie N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is a Catholic perhaps she can get the marriage annulled.
Also I believe that in most denominations of The Christian Religion adultery is a valid reason for divorce.
2007-01-31 20:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by scallywag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question. I think your friend has a natural and right attitude here. It is a real tragedy when a marriage ends. I write as a Christian myself.
Having said this, I believe that there is a quite wonderful truth about marriage and divorce. Namely, that the very existence of marriage was intended for several reasons - including of course that our partner should be a help to us. But, also, that we should reflect a greater marriage - that of Christ and his Bride, his Church. Therefore, though we may fail to reflect that beautiful and true marriage by our own marriage, and though our own union may fail for any number of reasons, still we are right to admire and talk well of marriage as a divinely given institution.
Thus, though I may fail in marriage, still I see enough examples of success in that institution to speak well of it. That is my belief and I hope that, as time passes, you know the grace of God, even in this painful experience.
Yours sincerely in Christ
2007-01-31 22:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by democracynow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE
God was husband to Israel.
Isa.54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is His name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall He be called.
God is divorced, God divorced Israel.
Jer.3:8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
Does God like divorce? No, nor should we.
Is divorce the unforgivable sin? No.
So why is that: people, churches, and religion try to make divorcees a second class Christian?
Is God second class? No, of coarse not.
So, let’s put a stop to these precepts of men.
2007-01-31 20:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many churches are pragmatic in their view of divorced people when it comes to someone who has been jilted or mis treated, and won't hold the victim responsible.
2007-02-01 07:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by ben 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i divorced as a christian.through no fault of my own.now i feel that god is the only person i need in my life because he is the one leading me with the right path to take in my life tell your friend that divorce is ok as long as she is happy in herself and if she wants to marry again there is nothing wrong with that as long as her husband is a christian as well. speak to her minister if she needs support thats what i did.
2007-02-01 06:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to just pick and choose which sins to commit, like any other good Christian does.
Psst! *whispering* I used to be a Christian and I got divorced and I'll probably get married again...or not....and I've been having sex with other men too...maybe some women. And god hasn't struck me down and never will because god doesn't exist.
2007-01-31 20:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by professionalfemale01 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is one of the reasons I stay away from religion.Hope your friend recovers & has children in a loving stable relationship.
2007-02-02 14:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if that person treated her in a cheating way then she is not to worry because that is unfaithful to marriage so she is already divorced in Gods eyes
2007-01-31 20:39:40 · answer #11 · answered by inuitone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋