I have had the worst few days ever!!!
Its not like me to be like this but, I lost a young child in A+E and I can`t stop thinking about it, I can`t get the look of the parents faces out of my mind!!!
I feel really tearful!!!
I keep telling myself to get a grip this has happened before but, I can`t seem to.
Please help me relax my mind
Thank you
Tink xxx
2007-01-31 12:19:46 · 13 answers · asked by Tink 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Come and lean back into our arms here on Yahoo! Answers. Look at all the wonderful replies you are receiving to this difficult question you have posed this evening. Everyone is reaching out to you, so please surrender your feelings, cry a little, let go, let it out, accept our love for you and draw strength from us, because every one of us cares about what happened. Time will help some, but you need to notice how many people are trying their level best on this page to reach deeply out to you right where you are, and help you to heal. I have no words for you at all. If I were as upset as you are, it would mean a lot to me that so many others were just making such an intense effort to comfort me. Trust that support and in time this will all begin to make sense once again and everything will begin to get into balance.
2007-01-31 12:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
I can understand how bad it may have made you feel! If it is really eating you up inside, you may need to actually tackle it head on.
I mean go on go ahead--have a good cry dont feel ashamed of it, cry till you cant cry no more.
I read on yr profile that you like the beach?
Do this crying by yrself on the beach alone. Then when you cant cry no more but stil feel pain. Think. Think about exactly what this child meant to you; how much time you spent with this child, take any small objects of his with you (if you have them).
You could write down how you feel, positives on one side negatives on the other.
If he has a place of rest go there (maybe write a small poem for him so he knows how you feel and leave it there for him)
Put his objects in a box and bury it in a special place.
Talk to his parents if you can, maybe they can comfort you?
If you pray the do, but if not just take the time out to think by yourself. I mean do you feel guilty?
If you have a partner/children other family give them all hugs(you dont have to tell them why), take a deep breath and live your life the best you can. I hope this helps babes.
Heres a big hugs and kisses to you from me.
I will pray that he is ok and that you relax.
Email me if you need anymore advice
bananajam24@yahoo.co.uk
Fizzy
2007-01-31 12:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Fizz24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart is in the right place, you connected with the child and the family, you should feel proud that you did this, its not often that you see things like that, i know people die, that's part of life, you know this, its such a hard position that you are in, I don't think i know do it that for sure. Your brave to take this on by yourself, when you feel ready greeve for the loss but remember them, as that's what we all are, memories to each other,but just think, how many people, children are running around full of life thanks to you? you don't get to see that part but you know it happen because you make it happen.
2007-01-31 12:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kickback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is hard but it is not the first and wont be the last, you know that don't you and if you want to do this job you need to focus more on the ones you have saved. Think about those children you kept alive and they that are now living because of your intervention. It is sad about this child but you cannot save everyone and it will get easier to cope with as time goes on. You save lives so don't give up. We need you.to be strong and give us the gift of healing your posess. Love to you
2007-01-31 12:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. A+E couldn't do without people like you, but if I were those parents I would still be glad that there were compassionate and sensitive staff like you there who had feelings and were not just professional and cold. You didn't lose the young child, it probably couldn't have been saved by anyone. You take care.
2007-01-31 12:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can only imagine what you are going through more so the childs parents just truly hope this passes for you it does good to cry you have had really caring people replying its lovely to know there are so many good people out there chris you are a lovely person also agree about the koala disgraceful
2007-01-31 13:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The death of a young child is always tragic, just remember how many we help in this world and be grateful for our own health.
2007-01-31 12:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by MimC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that, can i sugest you got to your management and ask for some councilling as a responsible employer they should offer this, you can be the strongest person in the world and still be affected i know how it feels as i have worked with vunrable paitents.
AND HOW INSENSITIVE OF THE KOALA CANT YOU SEE THAT THIS PERSON IS UPSET AND NEEDS SUPPORT NOT SOMEONE TAKING THE MICKY
2007-01-31 12:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by friendofb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems you were attached to this child. Go ahead and grieve for them. You don't need to hold it in. It's not healthy.
2007-01-31 12:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it to memory and tell yourself that this was bad enough to never forget and you VOW it will NEVER happen again on YOUR watch!
Then forgive yourself, dang... you're only human!
2007-01-31 13:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋