Ok. will me and my patner have been together for 8 mos,and we still fight almost every day. Why do we fight like that? But we so call love each other.
2007-01-31 12:13:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably because neither one of you have learned the difference between a suggestion, a request, and a demand. Or that you are both demanding.
A SUGGESTION would be, "Honey I would suggest that you not wear that red dress tonight". Honey is free to wear the dress if she wishes and it doesn't bother me.
A REQUEST would be, "Honey please don't wear that red dress tonight". Then would ensue a give and take about the needs of Honey as well as the needs of me and we come to a mutual decision
A DEMAND would be, "Honey if you wear that dress tonight I'm not going". This leaves Honey with no room for compromise and Honey is more than likely apt to counter with her own demands sometimes leading to a "fight". By issuing a demand I have painted her in a corner as well as myself in another corner. Relationships that depend on demands rarely work in the long run.
Have you ever noticed that people who don't demand of each other seem to have the most loving relationships?
Each of you needs to learn to suggest and request your needs to one another if you expect your relationship to last.
2007-01-31 13:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Diogenes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i can help from experience only. I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 months. And between 8-10 months was the hardest for us, fighting everyday. All i can say is that it is a phase and if you really loved him *depending on your age* you should wait it out and hope the best will come out of it. If you are anything like me and my boyfriend, we dont fight when we are together, but when we are apart is when it hits us. So good luck and try your hardest to make it through. Hope all is well!!
2007-01-31 20:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a healthy relationship. You are saying still like you have been fighting like this since the beginning of your relationship. If this is the case, this definitely is not a healthy relationship. Maybe you should end it before it gets worse. Maybe its time to have a talk about the things you are fighting about. Both people have to be willing to compromise. If not then it should be over.
2007-01-31 20:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by msnothinbutalady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have differences in opinions and that leads to both thinking you are right about things. And it sounds like instead of setting down and really talking things out , you guys would rather yell and fight..A relationship is two different people with different views on things compromising and coming to a mutual understanding..
Now do you really love him cause if you do instead of attack him on his opinions listen and tell him how you love him and how you see things.
2007-01-31 20:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-31 20:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by andypc14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it call relationship,
we want one and we should know that relationships comes with disagreement, drama and more drama, we stay away from drama, you will have to communicate, say how u feel
2007-01-31 20:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that is love i think that is lust, you guys arent in love you are in lust with his sex. if the sex is good you might think that youre in love rethink this love thing
2007-01-31 20:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by MRS.BLONDIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost everyday? gee I dont know perhaps ur not a good match----
2007-01-31 20:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u cant stand eachother..............but hey what do i know i just have common sense
2007-01-31 20:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Agent Buckwald! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋