I am having a really hard time deciding who I want to walk me down the isle. Mom? Dad? -who has never been a big part of my life, or put up a penny for the wedding. Younger brother? Grandpaw? So I was thinking that I could just walk by myself and have my mother, father and step-father stand and say "we do" when asked who gives away the bride. Has anyone done or seen this done before?? I was hoping if I did this I could think of something special that my dad could do in place. My mom is lighting the unity candle. I need suggestions and help!!!
2007-01-31 12:01:26 · 28 answers · asked by bride24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If your mom has been there for her....just talk to her....get her thoughts....but dear this is your wedding....you can do it how ever you like. I actually thinks that sounds like a fine idea....having them all just stand there. The pastor doesn't even have to ask..."who gives the bride away"....You could walk down yourself....and then just pause where they are....and give each of them a kiss....then go on up and start from there....you can have it done however you like....Just don't stress dear....you only get to do this once.
2007-01-31 12:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say it's your wedding and your big day so do it the way that you feel most comfortable doing. I wouldn't worry too much about who contributed or whose feelings will be hurt or anything, remember that it's supposed to be all about you anyway. I'm getting married in the Spring of '08, and I plan on walking myself down the aisle. My birth mother and my adoptive mother will stand up and say we do, but that's about all that will happen with that. I have a baby brother that won't be old enough, I have a step-dad but we don't really get along that well, and I have a grandpa, but he's already done this for me once. I figure I'll just do it myself this time. Then, I don't have to be concerned with anyone thinking that their toes got stepped on because they weren't asked to walk me because they thought they should have. As for something your dad can do instead...he's your dad, you will have the father daughter dance, you can always have him do a reading or something, maybe sing if he can, ya never know, he might have a hidden talent you don't know about ; )Again, just remember, it's all about you honey, do whatever you feel best with doing. Good luck and congrats.
2007-01-31 12:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you can cut out the whole who give the bride away part if you want. An idea for your dad is to have him give the groom something. Like pinning his buttiner (sp?) on his lapell as a sign of his blessing in your union. Just remember weddings today are so varied that you can basically do what ever you decide you want to do. No one is going to question it because your the bride, it's your wedding, so do what you want! My wedding is on the beach in a 5 min ceremony then a reception to follow is just a big texas bbq. I wanted short, simple, sweet, and laid back. Personally if someone doesn't approve or like it, well then they don't have to come do they? :) congrats on the engagment and have fun with the wedding planning!
2007-01-31 12:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi bride24,
Its your wedding, so you should do whatever you feel best about.
I had both my parents walk me down the isle, and they both lit the candle together. Your suggestion to have the people who are most special to you say "we do" to give you away is beautiful, and balances with you walking down the isle on your own.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-31 12:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by PurpleMag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the situation that you are in...it is not a pleasant one. If, and I say if, your mother or father disagree that you should walk down the isle alone and they lecture you that they should be the ones to give you away, tell them that if they are willing to pay your wedding expenses or a good part thereof, then they'll be welcome to walk you down the isle...otherwise take your brother. Good luck on your marriage!
2007-01-31 12:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a family member (father,mother,brother,grandfather,uncle ect.) walk you down, or you can walk down yourself. I've seen women walk down themselves. Its what you see fit. My sister-in-law had her uncle walk her down the isle because her father passed away about 8 months or so before the wedding. And my cousin had her 2 brothers.
2007-01-31 12:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend's wife had her mother walk her down the aisle...but you know what, you should do whatever you feel like doing. Your wedding day is all about you (and maybe a little bit about your fiance)!
Do what you is most comfortable for you.
Congrats and good luck!
2007-01-31 12:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by allthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can walk by yourself, and you don't have to have it included in the ceremony that part that says who gives away the bride. I didn't have a dad to do it, my mom wouldn't, and I didn't want to walk alone. My man and I walked in together, and it was wonderful.
2007-01-31 22:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you can walk yourself! I think that walking yourself and having your parents stand and 'give you away' is a great idea. You should do what makes you and your hubby to be comfortable and happy. I was fortunate enough to have a great dad and second (step) dad and they both walked me down. Good luck and congratulations!
2007-01-31 12:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why not, its your wedding, you should do what you want. Who says you have to be like everyone else? when I get married, I was planning on walking myself down the aisle while singing the song from this moment on to my future husband.
2007-01-31 12:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋