sister help :[?

Question

My sister and i do NOT get along at all. We are 18 and 14 but we wear the same clothes and look a LOT alike. I really love her and want to get along with her, but she always yells at me and gets stressed out about a lot of things. I want to be able to talk to her about problems that I can't go to my mom about! I wish we could get along, but it doesnt really work out.

Answer 1

Are you the 18-y.o. or the 14-y.o.? It's not uncommon for siblings to clash during these years. I understand your wanting to talk with her about things that you may not want to talk to your mom about, but perhaps your sister is dealing with her own issues and doesn't feel like she can take any more on.

You say that she yells at you and seems stressed out. Can you identify what triggers these episodes? Time of day? Subject? Certain behavior? If there's a pattern, try to reverse it by not bringing that subject up, not talking to her if she is rushed or busy, not borrowing her things w/o asking, etc.

You might buy her a nice card -- one that says "Glad We're Sisters" or something like that, just to let her know you care and try to do something nice for her whenever you get the chance.

Sisters are very special -- these may be rocky times but chances are when you are older you will be very close and that's a great thing.

Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 2

Well if you are the 18 year old then don't think too much of it, it's hard dealing with a teenager especially 14 (no offense if you are 14) it's the time when you almost enter high school if you are not in it already and boys and more friends come into your life plus the teacher that don't baby you anymore likke how you were used to. Maybe she has stuff going on at school that she takes out on others.

If you are the 14 year old well all i can say is that maybe your sister is stressed out about going to college SAT scores and the you know the border line between her younger life and her adulthood.

Either way just try understanding her and putting yourself in her shoes, try to find out if there is some way you can help her. If she wants to be left alone, don't worry, sooner or later you will start talking more and understanding each other as time passes.

Answer 3

well maybe she doesnt like how you re doing to her by wearing the same unifits like her or act like her . maybe shes upset and mad that you keep following her steps by wearing same colors clothings or she wish you just change youre own way and dedicate to wear whatever you want to dress up instead beinging alike her . if she isnt ready to speak to you or share her feelings with you then just left her alone for a while so she can do the things she want to do in her life and just not keep bothering her or she will just get so mad at you for not go away . if she does yelled at you then means that she doesnt want you or anybody else bugging her now. well lifes cant even be as same before whn you and youre sister had . if shes the older then you then i think you should stop stalker her cause if you dont might end up having breakin up relationship and both of you will end up hurting eachother feelings more .

Answer 4

Oh, sister drama. I know how it feels. I'm assuming you are younger....just because you sound like my little sis. My sister and I get along sometimes, but the rest of the time she's annoying. We have almost 5 years between us, and I sometimes think that is part of the problem. My sis wants to be just like me, but i'm not too crazy about it. It's nice to know someone looks up to you for stuff like that, but if you're a little too much like her, it gets weird. I would suggest giving her a little space when she wants it. And eventually, she'll begin to miss you, and start to reach out for you again. Just be nice to her, and she'll have to return the favor.

Answer 5

take a break from her for a little bit. just to see. or you can set her on fire