I'm still in love with someone I met on yahoo answers, Unfortunately, we are no longer together, but I still think about her every day, and miss her, How do I get over her?
2007-01-31 11:55:04 · 40 answers · asked by dahorndogd013 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is something that you will have to figure out. Fortunately my 2 beautiful boys are very good at keeping me busy and most of the time they let me forget the hurt and pain I've had in the past. I know that my children trust me completely and love me unconditionally and that is all I need right now. To know that they never doubt me and have all the faith in the world in me makes me feel complete. Getting over someone is awful but there is nothing worse than always feeling doubted and pressured from the other person. There is always something that breaks apart people and from my experience it is always a trust/honesty factor.
2007-01-31 15:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reconfigure how you feel about these memories. Do you remember a childhood friend and miss them? It doesn't hurt when you miss them though, does it?
Try and be positive when you are waxing nostalgic about lost loves. If you are not together still it is because the two of you weren't "the best fit." Going over the "whys" and "what you might have done differently" is futile, and mires you in the depressive/negative side of your memories.
If it hurts still, pair your rose colored reminiscences with a "not so great" characteristic of your ex. For every memory of how great they smelled also remember that they would never share a favorite book, musician or hobby with you. Takes all the fantasy out of the act of missing them.
Don't try not to miss them though because they helped form who you are. I'm friends with some of my ex's while I probably won't ever talk to others again, yet on some level I remember them all fondly, and still even love them a bit. So what though, in the scheme of things, I'm a happily married man.
You won't fall out of love with them but you will fall out of angst. Really, you have to figure that you are the central character of your own story not someone who is not with you any more.
2007-01-31 12:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by sonny_clips 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't wanna hear this...but the only way is time. Time and keeping yourself busy. Try to get into something that requires your full attention so you're mind won't wonder back to the ex...maybe play a sport, a good video game, start a new hobby. Answer tons of questions on yahoo answers! lol..what ever you need to do. Eventually you'll wake up and won't even have to try not to think about the ex. You'll be OK. Good luck
2007-01-31 12:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is interesting. You might never get over her. Are you a guy? My great grandmother used to tell me that women can love more than once, but men only truly love once in their lives. Is this your true love? Have you tried talking to her? I guess it depends on what happened between both of you. The easiest (hardest) way to get over her is disconnecting yourself completely from her. Go away, travel or something. Make new friends, don't remind yourself of "things" you enjoyed with her. This is only going to get you depressed, plus, she might have moved on already. Think about that too, the fact that she moved on and you are still missing her.
2007-01-31 12:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU never really do! What you can do is honor her memory and think about all of the good times that you did share.
Think of all of the great things that she added to your life.
Some people come into your life for a season and some people are here for a reason.
Maybe hers was to prove to you that you are worthy of love and maybe you can do the same things that attracted her to you for someone else and a new relationship will form as a result of the things you learned from this person.
2007-01-31 11:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
with time you will get over her.
it may appear like too much to take in at once but you will get there. give yourself a break and let go of the memories. stop dragging your poor heart back into it again.
time alone can get you there and along the way if you find some one just as special then the process of forgetting will be alot easier.
good luck
2007-01-31 12:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by mysticshabs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very difficult to forget someone you love but life is not permanent. Things are changing and people come and go in our life. When you are not meant to each other, you couldnt be together no matter how you work for it. Just move on and find time to relax and make friends as many as you can and share your thoughts and ideas to them. They can be of great help when you want to forget somebody you love much.
2007-01-31 12:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Maria Liza V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Laugh all the time, keep yourself busy and go to church every Sunday. Getting over someone you truly love is so hard. No matter what, u still love the person and it sucks.
2007-01-31 12:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time. Even if you meet someone else, you will still think of her and that's not fair to the new girl. Take the time to mourn the passing of the relationship and then just let it go.
2007-01-31 12:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by MI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time and also filling your time with other pursuits. Your mind will wander back to the one you are missing if you don't find things to constantly be doing. Also, a change will do you good, like Cheryl Crowe says.
2007-01-31 12:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋