okay so on monday at school I hooked up with this guy...this was a very big deal for me since I've never been kissed. and we talked for awhile and I really really like him. He gave me his number but I am soooo shy that i wont call him. I hate talking on the phone i prefer talking in person. but he and i like each other i just dont know how to get over my shyness... and i see him and i as a good potential for a wonderful relationship... but idk what 2 do!!!! HELP!!!
2007-01-31 11:51:47 · 26 answers · asked by yesterdaysfeelings425 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call him - - now - - disconnect from the computer and call him- - - - -set up a date for this weekend - - are you still reading this? I thought I said to get off the computer and call. Now --- don't read any more ----call him. Or if you want you can continue to read my rantings and I will tell you about this huge zit on my backside. It was quite large and I thing it had at least a teaspoon of puss in it but it felt so good after it stopped hurting - bet you wished you had called him instead of reading this.
2007-01-31 12:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Rickey W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you can't have a great relationship without talking.
So try this:
Short call: Tell him you prefer talking in person to talking on the phone so he knows. Then try and arrange a time/place to meet. Have some good suggestions for places because it will be easier for him to say yes/no than think of somewhere on the spot. Keep your goal in mind which is to arrange somewhere/sometime that you can meet.
Longer call or in person:
Write a list of things that you like to talk about or questions you want to ask. Questions about what sport does he play? Who's in his team? or what other hobbies does he have? Seen any good movies recently? Why did he like it? You can work through the list on the phone - but don't interrogate him :) Or you can study the list before you meet him in person.
This step is all about you not having to worry about running out of things to say. If there is a silence, it's really not that bad. Just go to the next thing on your list.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-31 12:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your shyness and just talk to him! You got the answer. Listen, when I was a freshman I liked this one guy that was soooo popular.....but I was like the geek. Still, he liked me. Because I never got over being so shy with him, it basically didn't work out. Later on, we saw each other as seniors and he asked me to be his girlfriend.......I just said no with my head and didn't answer. Off we went to college, liking each other but always wondering. Today, I think about him all the time. It's not the same, but many times I have wondered about us. I didn't try, I was too shy. Even though he was so popular, he didn't care and wanted to give it a shot.....but I was too stupid to recognize it. You don't want to live your life wondering. Call him, but don't be on the phone for too long....if you do, you'll become an "easy" catch. That will force him to actually talk to you whenever you see him.
2007-01-31 11:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh! i have the same problem! i won't call this guy b/c i'm shy but u know what i think? i think i better call him before some other female puts her hands on him. and that sure makes me want to call him first. u only live once, what if he moves out of the country tomorrow? or worse? u never know! what if u see him walking around with another girl? don't let shyness be the reason u missed out. or fear or anger or jealousy. does are ok to feel but not ok to react to, so pick up the phone and put on ur sexy voice he'll love it! or send him a text message. don't wait to much and let him know u hate the phone, he'll tell u what to do.
2007-01-31 11:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by la virgen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if you hooked up with a guy before having a relationship with him then there is no potential for having a wonderful relationship in the future. You definitely did things backwards! He probably gave you his number so he could continue to hook up with you w/o the relationship part.
2007-01-31 12:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kelley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call, you have nothing to lose. If you don't call you won't have anything to gain. Remember to take it slow. Don't make out with a guy right away! Even if this is the first guy you kissed, he will think you kiss every guy if you do it so soon. But just call, being shy gets you nowhere in life.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 11:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jiselley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to talk over the phone too! Nothing is wrong with talking in person - that is the best - but, you aren't going to be around him 24/7 - so..... - call him up--- and it may be awkward at first, but I'm sure you'll find things to talk about - since you were able to talk so freely with him in person.
Nothing to do but to do it!!
2007-01-31 11:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dear u just answered ur doubts
focus on the fact that u both like each other and the potential for a good future... that will get rid of your shyness.....
all said.....dont u think you should be concentrating on your studying and leave the boyfriend stuff for later?
2007-01-31 11:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by toms146 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one step at a time. Tell him how you feel about things. Like maybe call him and ask him if the two of you can meet somewhere and talk for a few minutes.
2007-01-31 11:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax and just act natural. if he gave his number call him and just talk to him. if he is sweet in person he could be that way on the phone. you just have to over come your shyness.
2007-01-31 11:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋