I wanted to start piano 4 years ago. In the beginning I found it quite fun and nice, but then when my mom changed my piano teachers its been the worst days. sometimes when I forget to play the piano a day my mom makes me play like 45 mins the next day or an hour, and i have so many extracurricular activities its so hard to keep up, no to mention homework. So, i play 45 mins or an hour, but sometimes my mom doesn't think i do good so she forces me to play 2 hours the next day and so forth, even my brother who is 3 yrs younger takes advantage of me. I HATE PLAYING THE PIANO cause of them , they always force me and i dont like that. I did talk to her about it and she said "No, you have to play either you like it or now" so now i'm stucck hating it and playingg too.
i need help :]
2007-01-31 11:49:11 · 7 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, do you hate playing or do you hate playing under these conditions?
First, figure out what you hate?.You liked the piano at one time, but your mom switched teachers.
Why did she switch.
Don't tell her you hate piano, she won't believe it.
She will think that it is not piano that you hate, it is just "practice."
So, tell her that you would like to be back with the old teacher.
TEll her how much you did enjoy piano when it was with the old teacher.
Tell her that you are feeling lots of pressure and you have many things.
Ask her if you can cut your practice time down a bit, but when you do practice, really get in there and practice.
If you have actually lost your desire to play, tell her this.
Tell her that You, as a kid, thought that you would enjoy it, but it is getting too hard and frankly, you have other things that you enjoy more.
Since you have other extra activities, tell her how much you enjoy them and that you would rather spend time and energy in those.
If she says no, then ask her to set a timeline.
Tell her that you will hold out for "three more months" and you will give it your all, but if you still do not like playing, can you stop because, obviously, you really do not like playing.
Pick something that you wuold like your mother to be good at:
sewing, cooking, crafts, scout leader, PTA mom, best saleslady for parent projects, etc.
I am sure that you mom is wonderful, but she has things that she does not like doing.
Tell her that even though you wuold like her to be good at these things, she may not like them and is not.
WE all, as parents, want our children to be good and successful. Show her all the areas that you are and will be successful in.
If she pays for your lessons monthly, wait until the end of the month, so you are respectful of the money that she has put out for you to play.
Oh, don't talk to her right after a lesson or practice. Find a nutral time. Even find a time when your teacher says that you are doing well and tell her.
So you can say, Yes, Mom, today was a good day: but... ... ...
2007-01-31 12:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by JAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 32 now. I started taking piano lessons in the 4th grade and i finally convinced my parents that i didn't want to take lessons any more just before high school. I still remember that conversation in the living room.
The truth is that you won't regret doing it. What you're missing and what i was missing was the creativity part of it all. I can read music and play pieces with a lot of practice but i've no creativity or passion for what I can play.
You are lucky to be able to get piano lessons but in the end it is your life. In the end , you will not be sad you had to endure those lessons and practice sessions. My Mom would make me practice for an hour and how i hated that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is part of your growing up...your Mom wants the best for you and she is frustrated that you cannot see this.
Yet, you need to have a teacher you are passionate about so listen to the advice about how to convince your Mom to get you a teacher you can learn from...
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater... :)
2007-01-31 14:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how you feel to your mom. Maybe finding a new teacher would help/ I went through the same thing when I was young. Ended up taking lessons for 11 years and I am so glad (NOW) that I did. You won't regret this.
2007-01-31 12:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining (calmly) to your mom that you don't like playing. Tell her what you don't like about your piano teacher, and how hard it is to keep up with practicing and it's interfering with your homework.
Instead of trying to quit completely, maybe you could convince her to cut your practices down to 15 minutes instead of an hour.
2007-01-31 11:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents what u just told us.I'm a parent and I would listen if u explained it to me the way u just did. If she doesn't listen then u can't do much about it but just take a stand and not play. Good luck
2007-01-31 12:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to stop playing it. When I was younger, my mother forced me and my brothers to learn violin, piano, guitar, you name it. I hated her for that, and I still hate her for that.
2007-01-31 13:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's getting her money's worth out of it. Make her proud.
2007-01-31 12:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋