I already have a 1/2 year old daughter.I am about to have a boy in 2 weeks.The father of both of them just left me.For my step-sister.What should I do?My family is already very greedy about the money for the first child.I do not want an abortion.
2007-01-31 11:46:41 · 25 answers · asked by crazygurl87 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know I can't get an abortion now.Remember this is my second child.
2007-01-31 12:03:26 · update #1
I am a very young mom with 2 kids. I was 17 when I got pregnant with my son. I was also still in H.S, had a part-time job, and i was a single mom. The state gave my baby and I medical and helped pay for day care while I was in school and work. After the baby was born i got kicked off of the medical but the baby stayed on. The medical card helped me out a bunch. I graduated H.S with a 4.0 GPA. I was living with my parents but still had to pay for the bills for my baby and I and food and anything that needed a money value. My parents helped me out a lot by letting me still live with them. My youngest child now is 2 and I am a stay at home mom. My BF now works full time and pays for everything.
My advise to you. Finish school if your still in school, apply for college, and seek help from your state. The state will help you if you can prove you need help. If you get into college you will have a better chance of providing a better life for your kids and you will set a good example for them when they are older. Your number one priority is taking care of your kids. i didn't file for child support but you can. You should do it. Forget about him and your sister. Do what you need to do to be the best mom to your kids and yourself.
I also finished college while taking care of my son and being pregnant with my daughter.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 13:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From any perspective, all you can do is raise your children as they should be brought up. It's not your families job to get the money, fight the jerk for custody or child support and let the courts do that for you. About the step sister part, he's a low life and you can probably do better if he'll leave you nearing child birth, especailly for a family member. If you don't want to get an abortion, which if you are due in two weeks it's too late to have one anyway unless you get the whole fetus removed and that's as extensive as having a C-Section. Have your little boy, and things will work out. Good luck with the baby!
2007-01-31 11:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how tight your ex is he has a responsibilty to his children. That doesn't end when he decides. It ends when they reach the age of majority (18 in most states). The amount he pays depends on what the court decides (a judge or magistrate).
If you mean your parents and sister/brother are tight there isn't much you can do there. However, I know my parents where a godsend when I got into trouble. I'm sure yours will be supporitve especially given the fact you are 19 with two little kids.
You do have the option of open adoption. You stay in contact with your child throughout his life. YOu attend parties and even can arrange for monthly visits extra. You can arrange for pictures and cards too. More importantly your child will know you and you'll always know where he is.
This is a very important decision. Please handle it that way. Don't make a rash decision you'll regret later.
2007-01-31 12:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, abortion is not an option right now and even if it were that's not what you do. First of all I am sure you will be fine I know PLENTY of girls who are young and have kids and are single you do what you have to do. There is also public assistance that will help you out. File for child support as soon as you have the baby even if he does not have a job because one day maybe he will and he will owe you all that money!. Oh, and smack your step sister! Good luck
2007-01-31 11:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by K J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one you can't have an abortion now.. since your due in 2 weeks. No doctor will preform that. The thing about the daddy. I have a friend that is making it just fine without the daddy of her daughter. You'll be fine. There are plenty of plans and help you can get for being a single mother, especially with two children. Good luck to you, sweetie.. and I'm sorry about the father. He's a jerk anyways for leaving you while your about to give birth. Good luck again!
2007-01-31 11:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by tristan's mommie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie hate to tell you this but if you are about to give birth in 2 weeks you can't have an abortion now. The father is responsible for the children. He has a money commitment to them. take him to court and get the money your kids deserve. If he's with your step sister well they both aren't very nice people if you ask me. As far as the rest of your family being greedy with the money for your first child screw them those children are dependants. They need food/clothing, diapers etc. To put it bluntly sue 'em and screw 'em.
2007-01-31 11:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by anaura2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have to tell you that your life is going to be hard. Obviously this guy is not worth your time. But he is the kids father. Make peace with him and make the best of it. Fighting is not the answer. If you really want a second child then get ready to be strong and patient. You will be both mother and father to these kids. Find out what resources are available to help you. Prepare for the future. Go to school become a mommy your children can be proud of. Good luck to you.
2007-01-31 11:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is his obligation to pay for his children doesn't matter if he is greedy or not the courts can have it taken right out of his pay check and that money is for your children not your family so don't let them take it from you. And as for an abortion you couldn't get one even if you wanted since you are due in two weeks it is a little to late for that.
2007-01-31 11:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by mel4uus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a child that is 1/2 a year old that would be 6 months old. You are due in 2 weeks so it would not be possible to get an abortion, also you would have had to get pg with this child while you were pg with the 1/2 year old one. If you are truly in a bind talk to a social worker and he/she will be able to help you.
2007-01-31 11:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not to late to give your child up for adoption. It would be very hard but in your case, it might be the best thing for both you and the baby.
By the way - the father is legally obligated to pay child support. If you need proof that he's the father, get a paternity test.
2007-01-31 11:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋