we went out for 5 months and then she dumped me then 2 months later she told me she made a mistake and wished she had never done it, anyways i asker her out on the 14th and we fight a lot. we both dont like it but we both find things to fight about. and i dont want to break up with her and she doesnt want to break up with me. do you have any suggestions?
2007-01-31 11:30:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get help if you want it to work.
If not go your own ways.
2007-01-31 11:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really HAVE had ongoing arguments, then it's not so surprising that ONE of you is asking for some breathing room. Maybe use the time to look inward and try to figure out what it is that makes you fight all the time. Or say yes to the break, but suggest that during the break you try couples counseling, for some professional help in getting to the bottom of the fighting. But the bottom line is that both of you might be telling the truth -- the reason why, you have to discuss it. If you don't want to broke your relationship, you have to understand each other, PRAY ask GOD for help. Remember that arguments killed the love. So you have to be prepared for that outcome.
2007-01-31 11:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you both need to figure out why it is you don't want to break up with each other. If you are together for the sake of not being alone, that is not a very good reason. Evaluate the positives, evaluate the negatives...like all the fighting. If one outweighs the other, you have your answer right there. And if it indicates you should still be together. Then I would suggest counseling. Although it's kind of sad you are not even married and need counseling. Why are you two together?? Ugh.
2007-01-31 11:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
[Not this far in studies]
(If you rather wnt to get out)
This is a situation that isn't healthy for the victim. Dont stay in a realtionship such as this, it is abusive in many ways. There are a number of reasons, mainly its because either you both want your way but the other mate doesn't want it. Just break up with her.
(If you want to stay,)
If you both fight alot, try to cooperate. A good realtionship is a teamworking realtionship. Try to fit all the gears together and show affection and care into the mess.
2007-01-31 11:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes--Grow up. Develop tolerance, and respect for each other. If you two are going to nit pick all the time, what kind of love affair is this anyways. Give it a try, and if it doesn't work the second time, then pack it in. You will have gave it your best shot.
2007-01-31 11:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find things that the two of you like to do. Like sports or activities. Whatever you do dont criticze her. Like tell her that she looks nice. Ask her how her day was. Once in a while buy her flowers and remind her how much she means to you. Try to be with her without making her feel like you own her. I hope that that helps you to some degree.
2007-01-31 11:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Constant fighting is certainly an indication of a problem in compatibility. It may be best for both of you to stop seeing each other for a longer period of time and see how you feel about each other over time.
2007-01-31 11:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy thats loopy. i'm entering into the direction of the comparable ingredient! ultimately i've got only suspected she's cheating on me, she's a police officer besides, and that i'm a firefighter so that's not like i ought to envision being together with her. only bypass with the flow and bypass away, do no longer call her, enable's HER call YOU. superb thank you to establish. After 3 days, ask her "found a clean guy yet?" and notice what she says
2016-11-23 18:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you both grow up or you both get out. Try the Jeremy Kyle show...his guests are always arguing and fighting!!!!
2007-01-31 11:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do I suggest?
Get the heck out of there! Why are YOU even putting up with all that drama? Life is WAY too short for all that bullshite.
2007-01-31 11:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, are you going to want to be married to them years down the road if you can't even get along now? Think about that and think if you should really keep this relationship. I hope you make the right choice.
2007-01-31 11:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋