Woman of 39....need to know a good place to meet people?

Question

I am 39 years old. Attractive, never had a problem getting dates, but seem to be asked out by the "wrong" men or married men? I live in a small town, no local clubs or anything. I am not really into the bar scene either. I get alot of hits off of the online dating sites. I had a bad experience with that and not interested in anything other than chat there. Just not sure where a good place to meet other singles would be? Any other ideas? Anything would be appreciated. I am clueless.

Answer 1

I think it gets harder and harder as you get older - no I am not trying to get you depressed - there is hope.

I'm 45 and met my SO in college when I was 41. We were both getting our MBA's.... bada bing... now we live together.

The point - the best way to meet nice people with common interests is to get involved with stuff, join a club, take up a sport, help out at schools , take up a hobby, join the YMCA or like me take a class -

Good luck

Answer 2

What are your interest or hobbies? If you have some hobbies or interest, you may want to get involved with some groups of people who have the same interest that you do.

For example, if you like to read, then maybe a book club might be a place. Or if you like photography, perhaps a photography club.
Be selective though because you want to be safe when joining any club or group.

Do you have any friends or family who are successfully and happily married? If so, maybe they can tell you how and where they met each other. This might give you some ideas.

Also, think about the type of man you are interested in, and then think where he might be more likely to hang out. This is not full proof because there could be a quality man at a place where you would not expect him to be, but it may give you some general ideas as to where you want to look. For example you would not look for a quality man at a dog fight :-)

You have had some bad experiences in the past, and this can serve you well. These experiences at least tell you what you don't want.

I don't think that there is any one good place to meet quality singles because they can be anywhere, but you can at least avoid the places where you have not had success and that are obviously bad (bar, etc.).

I think it's just a matter of getting out there and getting involved with things you are interested in and keeping your eyes open. For example I took a class and met a lady who I was interested in. I was not looking to meet anyone, perse, I was just taking the class for fun, and I met her. Get out there and get involved, and enjoy your life, and you will come in contact with lots of people, one of whom could be the one.

Be careful, be safe.

Answer 3

I'm with you on that... And I have NO IDEA how to meet singles other than bars/clubs or online personals. I spent 4 years doing the online dating thing, dated many people, have had a few "blunders"... But finally met "the right person" 2 years ago - and we are now married. I'm glad I had never given up on the online personals, in spite of the bad experiences. My husband and I are very compatible, and being that we're both indoor people and are not at all into bars or parties, there simply would have been no other way for us to meet.

Answer 4

you have come to the right place. A good place to meet people is your church and the public library. Barnes and Noble book store is also a wonderful place to meet people. Go there and just act clueless and good people will come up with open arms. I was once at the Best Buy store looking for some Jazz music and a lady who was also looking for some music in her life met me. One time I called a lady who wanted to sale her stereo system but I was late and it was already sold and I asked her is there anything else she would like me to see. And she asked me: What you want to see? We became friends. Anyway you can meet people almost anywhere if you are a bit lucky. Good luck.

Answer 5

U asked....aren't you pregnant?

So, my thought is...enjoy it. Have that baby that you always wanted and don't worry about getting a date. The wrong men are everywhere and you just left one recently.

If you need attention...well, it is going to be tough to get the right kind when you are about to have a baby.

If you want a good conversation. Try Borders or a good book store. At least there is some intellect. And they can't take advantage of you. And usually they are single if they are there on a Saturday.

That is my thoughts.

Answer 6

Yeah, check out your local Barnes & Noble or Borders books...at least you know the guys in there are literate.

How about a local coffee shop or something...but not one of those truckstop diner/coffee shops...rather, one of the hipster coffee shops...just look for one where a bunch of people with piercings hang out.

Other than that...oh hell, I don't even know why I'm giving you advice, I'm married, so I've been out of the game for so long...and even when I was single, I wasn't really all that good at it.

Good luck!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

What kind of things do you like? Ask friends to get you into new activities around new people, its amazing how many people you can meet. If you like sports thats a great way to meet men. Ball games, skiing trips, even your local mens softball league.

Answer 9

Wow..you are getting hits off at Yahoo! Answers too.
Maybe you would like to move into the city to get a change of environment, that probably would increase your chance of meeting your ideal partner. Good luck to you!

Answer 10

Go to book stores like barnes and noble books a million, go to the library, mall a billard room, try starbucks lots of people hang out there.