Do decent guys really go out with single mums?i`m not a slapper but was in a 6 year relationship and have a 4 year old son and his dad walked out on us,i can`t imagine actually meeting some1 who would be willing to take on a child as well,i`m only 24 so don`t want to spend the rest of my life alone!!!
2007-01-31 10:56:52 · 20 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I met my sons dad when i was just 18 and have never been with any1 else so find it hard to imagine someone else being in our lifes,I`m not looking as it`s only been a month since my ex left but just wondering.
2007-01-31 11:21:13 · update #1
30 years ago, I met a single mum with a 20 month old son. We met through a newspaper ad (which was not considered to be normal in 1977) and we hit it off immediately. As soon as we were able (we both needed to divorce) we were married, and we have been together ever since.
Don't give up hope, it will happen, so long as you remain positive.
good Luck and God Bless
Brian
xxx
2007-01-31 11:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll find that the only problem a decent guy would have is not the child but the childs father. Taking on a child is not a problem because its just another responsibility of a relationship that develops (albeit not a usual one) but the possible interruption from the child's father could be off putting. For instance I would take on someone else's child but not be willing for their father to turn up at my house etc and I wouldn't want them to have contact. If they weren't man enough to see a relationship through when they'd managed to produce a child then they relinquish the right to that child. I hope this makes sense because there are plenty of guys out there who don't think 'slapper' just because you already have a child. If I met you somewhere my thought's would be more along the lines of 1) are you fit; initial attraction & 2) are you nice / fun to be around; longer term possibilities.
2007-01-31 11:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's like everything else in life, some do and some don't.
You'll find that someone out there when you are ready, you will be more cautious as you have your son to consider.
I don't think that your situation is conceived as you being a slapper anymore - times have changed and there are alot more single mums all looking for the same thing - which is to be loved, no crime there.
Enjoy your time with your son, you never know when you may just catch that someone's eye when you are playing with him....
Good Luck
2007-01-31 11:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by lynn a 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up hope. I know lots of women who were single mums and are now happily married/together. There are quite a lot of men who'll think that cos youre single you are a slapper. Just ignore them. There are lots of people who will say you should devote all your life to your son and never go out, but you can be a good mum and have a social life. Just dont rush into anything and make sure a guy is worth it before you introduce them to your son.
2007-01-31 11:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have never heard that but i dont believe that to be true, i believe whether in your 20's or 30's as single mom (0r 40's 50's or even as a single teenage parent),you will and can cope with the things being a single parent can present to you, its always good to have a good support system whether family, friends, local good church, be positive , pray and ask God for strength and wisdom, and no matter your age as a single mum, you will be just fine and cope with life as a single parent in the most positive way you can!! :) its not always easy but life is not always easy even with joint parents , so i dont know why some people would think young single mums can not cope as well , but i dont buy that for a moment , :) ;)
2016-05-24 00:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do get some decent guys out there willing 2 take on another mans child but finding another man at this point shouldnt be your main priority it should be your son. I guess what im sayin is take care of your son, live life 2 the max and someday some guy will walk into your life and give u the happines you crave and take care of you and your son
2007-01-31 11:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by kerry w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes decent guys do go out with single mums, I think mentality helps if you keep it in mind that you will always be there for your child no matter what and you know what ever happens you will always cope (because we always do, no matter what) A relationship will come along. It will all fall into place, it just takes time, and as a friend once told me, it usually happens when your not looking. (it did for me.)
2007-01-31 11:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have heart! There are plenty of nice guys out there and you can afford to be choosy ...... just bring your son into the equation from day one and keep him there ...... any man worth his salt will fit in with this and you will simply know when Mr Right comes along. But do share your affections and keep quiet private times for you both. Make him feel special and he will want you both in his life ..... good luck!
2007-01-31 11:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are definately guys out there who would date a single mum, I would.
I think if you love someone then you would be willing to take on another guys kid as long as you were honest from the start.
I honestly think in time you will meet someone, good luck.
2007-01-31 11:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think were in the same boat. I'm 42, single and my wife left me high and dry. Well, I can't seem to find the answer, and haven't tried dating at all. I'm feeling so down and out right now. Well I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one, yet I hope you find happpiness, and I'm sure you will. Good Luck
2007-01-31 11:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by DASHLEY 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋