My daugter is 11 she has a nice bed and a safe room but she complains that it scares her, shes very groggy in the morning.
2007-01-31 10:45:48 · 13 answers · asked by danceaholic345 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
She might be having nightmares or night terrors.
Give her some warm milk before bed (add a little almond, vanilla or chocolate if she doesn't like it plain.) Make sure she doesn't drink caffeine during the day, and don't let her watch TV or use a computer 2 hours before bedtime. The light from the screens messes with her internal sleep clock.
If it doesn't get better in a couple of weeks, take her to a doctor.
2007-01-31 10:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 11, something is going on that she either can't or won't articulate. Did she see a scary movie, did she have a friend or a classmate who has had a death in the family or other traumatic incident? Did she get involved emotionally with a news story that involved a child? Like the boys who were kidnapped? Any of these things may have "tripped her trigger" in the area of not feeling safe and the area of "just because my parents love me and take care of me I may not be safe" If she won't talk to you about it, maybe the counselor at school would be willing to talk to her about it.
Hope you figure out what's going on soon.
2007-01-31 18:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by dakirk123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dakirk, she could be identifying with the realization that kids aren't always "safe" just because mommy and daddy are there and love them.
Have a long talk.
Explain that sometimes bad stuff happens.
Maybe go through a safety ritual, like lock up the house together, no tv before bedtime (especially the news! jeez it scares me, it's got to scare her!), nightlite, maybe even pull out the old baby monitor (but call it an "intercom") maybe if she knows that you can hear in there and you'll hear if she calls you...she may feel more secure.
2007-01-31 18:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do we make our kids sleep alone? very few other cultures around the world consider sleeping alone to be desirable for their young. I feel safe and happy when snuggled up with someone i love. Don't you? why shouldn't she? In my experience of 4 kids aged 14 - 2 years old, when allowed free unrestricted access to a big warm family bed, kids take their fill of cuddles and then mooch off back to their own room. She may come back for a few nights when grappling with exam stress or peer pressure, and bed, (half dozing) can be a great place to talk stuff over. When her world is back on track, she'll sleep in her own room...relax the definite rules about who sleeps where and make her welcome in your bed. The next few years can be tough, so stay connected while you can!
2007-01-31 20:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by foxy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to find out what scares her. Is she having trouble in school and does not know how to handle it? Feeling alone? sometimes a child has a lot on their mind and they don't quite know what to say or do about it. What is scary about her room, is there a jokester in your house? Is there noises? You have to determine why she is scared, then you can help her deal with it.. Offer to lay down with her and hold her until she falls asleep. could she have started her period and is scared she is going to die? Talk to your daughter, not in a grilling way, in a supportive way, ask what you can do to help her feel safe.
2007-01-31 18:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by fluffyflo_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her another room ,young girls can be sensitive to impulses from other dimensions .
is it an old house ?
let her sleep in another room and see if it stops
but loosing a few night sleep doesnt kill anybody
although kids usually need a lot more sleep than adults.
2007-01-31 18:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Night light and leave her door open. Soft music playing till she gets her old sleeping habits back.
2007-01-31 18:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DEAR PUT MORE NIGHT LIGHTS LEAVE HALL DOOR WITH A LITTLE CRANK IN IT GIVE HER A STUFF TOY BLANKET TRAVEL PILLOW THAT YOU CAN MAKE IN TO A BABY PILLOW YOU MIGHT HAVE TO SLEEP WITH HER UNTIL SHE IS A SLEEP OK. TAKE CARE
2007-02-01 01:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probally she dose not feel comfortable in that room she should have a room makeover
2007-01-31 20:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by estela_the_1_n_only 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider taking her to a psychologist. There may be an underlying reason for her fears, which she may or may not be aware of.
2007-01-31 18:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by 1dayatatime 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋