Ive been married to her oldest son for 14 years. she really put my marraige to the test for the first four and because of her meddling we ended up not having anything to do with both of his parents for the last 9 years. we recently opened things up again because of our youngest getting into trouble and we felt he needed a fresh start so after everyone else said no we sent him there. they are only 70 miles away. they are supposed to be christians now. hes been there 3 months and our son hates her. in that time she has asked for custody of him without even speaking to his father, told our son that she didnt think her son was his father, his father is retarded, that he and his sisters are losers and i wont even go into the things she told him about me. she is talking to the x wife about everything she thinks we have done wrong and it goes on. i knew she was mean but why go this far why does she do and say this stuff im just at a loss. i had hoped it could have been different. help ???
2007-01-31 10:42:42 · 12 answers · asked by skylinbaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You knew what she was like, you gave her another chance out of desperation, and she acted the same as always. I'd say it's time to cut her off again. She's not helping your son; she's harming him. Don't worry about her motivation, just protect your family.
2007-01-31 11:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, at age 14 a child can say who they wants to live with, if he is having problems and you sent him to the garndparents for a short time to get him the help he may need then MAKE SUER YOU SAY THAT... you should just drive over there RIGHT now and get him back, not a thing she can do NOTHING AT ALL.. and that is a FACT, if she has temp custody now then wait for court talk to your son and tell him to speak with the mediator and Judge and he'll be home with you. As for maother & Law talking gossip, remember of course she is going to do that to make you look bad but I will warn you right now, Judges don't look to kind on people who talk bad of one another so be kind and you will get what you want remember its for the child not the parents good will
2007-01-31 19:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your son back home and into counseling. If he keeps acting up he could always go back to her. I don't think he will want to. NO custody. Sounds to controlling. Get him involved in life and maybe take him to church to help him too. Let him know you do love him but he has to help out and stop getting into trouble.
2007-01-31 18:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sort of realtionship is very unhealthy for you and your son. I think you should not have anything to do with her, and don't let your sone get any more of her than this. Unless they change, put your foot down and lett them like it is, they'll never see you again until all this crap is over on their part. DOn't accept any compromise, becasue you'll be making them all your life.
If they come to you in good faith, you'll know they changed, otherwise, it's their choice to sacrifice their realtionship with you and husband and son... It's her choice! Don't feel like you did it!!
2007-01-31 19:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get your son away from her and close ranks again.
Maybe move to a totally different city.
2007-01-31 18:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Luthyin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously things have not changed. She sounds bitter. If your husband has the power to do it, get him away from her.
2007-01-31 19:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she just enjoys the excitement of the drama. The excitement that the chaos brings to her life. I kind of feel sorry for her..................she must not have enough of her own.
2007-01-31 18:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a control-freak psycho-b*itch. If your kid's already having problems, he doesn't need to be around that.
2007-01-31 18:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your MIL would put any hypocrite to shame. She's the leader of the pack.
2007-01-31 20:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would bring your son back to your home as soon as possible. oviously he hates her and she isn't helping by telling him all these false statements.
2007-01-31 18:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by .Frequently♥Dazzled. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋