someone please help me I'm scared?

Question

alright, my step dad molested me (i'm still living with him)and my cousins keep on calling me fat a&& it hurts very much and all this pain i'm going trough no one seems to care.one of my cousins that constantly calls me these names molested me to, i tried to tell his mom but she doesn't believe me and thinks i'm trying to put her son in jail.i've been sexually abused by more family members but it would just be a long list.i'm 18 now and don't know if i'll be graduating high school or not.this whole drama i'm going through takes away from me being focus in class. i want to tell my guidance counselor but i'm scared if she will tell. i want to tell some one my problems.i can't tell my mom because when i told her i lost my virginity at 7 to a family member she said nothing ever since my freshman year.
do you think my guidance counselor will tell?

sadly no i have no connections with my father and don't want to beacuse my mother told me that he tried to kill me when i was a baby so he would get out of paying child support.

oh boy, i wish i could choose all of you for best answer.

Answer 1

First of all I am sorry your have gone through this alone. Yes please tell someone other than your family members. Who seem not to care. So you go to Church? You could tell your minister or priest. Your guidance counselor will probably tell the authorities, I am sure its part of her job to notify them. Given the fact that you are 18 I am not sure if this willstill apply to you since you are no longer a minor. If you would have told someone sooner you would have been removed from your step dads house and put into foster care. You really need to get out of that house. Shame on your mother for turning a blind eye to your situation. Please get some help. You can call 1-800-843-5678. If the National hotline for missing Children and molestation. Please call this number and get help. Remember there are people out there who can help you.

Answer 2

At age 18 you have full rights, that includes the right to keep thing (secrets) from your stepfather. You guidance counselor should have a confidentiality clause in his/her contract with your school. This means that ANYTHING you tell him must remain secret. Tomorrow, or the next time you have time, go to your counselor and ask him if his contract does have a confidentiality clause. If he does remind him/her that that contract means that anything that you tell him/her cannot be told to anyone. Explain you situation and ask for advice. The consular will know what to do.If the counselor does not have a confidentiality clause in his contract go to either a school psychologist or a regular psychologist and remind them about the clause before explaining your situation.

Being 18, you also have a right to use the legal system to your advantage. Talk with the psychologist or counselor about this and they can help.

I hope you get through this OK. Good luck.

Answer 3

That's enough girl. Talk to your counsellor. Express all your fears and let the counsellor handle it professionally. You are of legal age and can get on with your own life. You do not need to continue living in such conditions. There is nothing to be ashamed of on your part. You did nothing wrong. Do everything you can to break free from this sickness. Your counsellor should be able to direct you. Have you got a family doctor? If you do, talk with your doctor as well. Start fighting back for your own life. Let those people face the harm that they have done. Keep reaching out, don't stop now. Because these people have hurt you so much, they don't have feelings. Don't worry about their consequences. They have broken the law. You deserve to be happy. Once again, remember that you have done nothing to deserve such treatment. No one deserves treatment like you have been through. Lots of love is sent your way. Prayers for strength are also sent to you. Life is waiting for you. By writing this question you have started your ball rolling. Keep it going. Take special care of yourself:)

Answer 4

Being 18 u can LEAVE!! GET OUT!! Your guidance counceler will help you find a place to go, and being 18 you don't have to deal with courts and guardianship etc.. cause u are an adult, be strong and get a job and do the best you can with your life!!!!
There are crisis centers in your area, they will help u finish school and get on your feet. While u are online right now, open a tab and type in the search crisis center for abused women in ... what ever county u live in. U should have a 211 help line too, they will direct u to GET OUT!!

Answer 5

I've lived through things like this. Being 18 and becoming an adult, you need to have the courage to stand up for yourself. These people are hurting you and their breaking the law. You should have enough respect for yourself to know that you need to tell someone about this and make it stop. No matter who you are or what horrible stuff you've done, no one deserves to live in the constant terror that you live in. GET OUT! MOVE ON! you still have so much of your life left, don't let these first few year stop the wonderful life that you could have. graduate, move away do something. don't just sit around and feel bad for yourself.

Answer 6

Why wouldnt you want your counciler to tell? It should be told. No matter what. You are 18, you can get out of that situation. I know thats easier said than done, but thats the only way to make things change.
If you tell your guidance counciler, they will help you. Isnt that what you need.
I know this because I have been through it. You have to tell someone, and you have to get out of there.
Dont let other people tell you youre lieing. they are in denial and thats their problem. not yours. It will continue to be a problem until you do something about it (tell your counciler).

Answer 7

Girl! I can't believe the way your family treated you. You have to tell your guidance counselor. You need to seek help. Is there any chance you can protect yourself from further abuse while living with them? Such as live at your best friend's place for the time being..

Answer 8

Please go to your counselor asap. There are agencies that will get you all the help you need. They will not send you back there. Don't be afraid and take all the help the system will give you. Trust me. I caught my step dad molest my brother and sister. Today my sister has brain damage from shock treatments because she became a drug addict to block it out. My brother is the most hateful man I know. Get help don't wait. I will keep you in my prayers tonight for you to be strong and not be afraid to tell.

Answer 9

i think you should tell the guidance counseler. if your family keeps this up chances our you'll become pregnant and then there'll be problems because of family breeding. you can't let them do this to you any more and since you're 18 you won't have to worry about child service's. i looked up on the web and found a site about child abuse...this number is to report abuse if you even halfway believe you should then do it. 1-800-4-A-Child. or at least check out the site.

Answer 10

Jesus... those people are going to hell... and you my dear sweet baby need to get help.. your guidence councelor is a mandated reporter..but it needs to be reported.. think of it this way.. whattheyve done to you, they have and will do to some one else.. your favorite little cousin.. you daughter when you have one... let your councelor know.. and it'll be handled.. you need to get some therapu too cause the ramifications of being molested/ raped are never positive. I would rather see you be a cataylst for other girls to get help, than see you turn to a life where your just trying to make the pain stop.. Get help Baby... I'll be praying for you and the souls of those who hurt you...