I've been off work for a week or so due to shoulder surgery and I'm bored to death..I've been doing the one-armed mr. mom thing, but I can't shake the feeling of worthlessness. I'm collecting a good work. comp. check, so its not the $$. My wife works hard all week and I want her to feel apreciated.. What else can I do? Even though she hasn't complained about anything.
2007-01-31 09:47:40 · 5 answers · asked by aksnowman31 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I understand EXACTLY how you feel, I had shoulder surgery in'04 and had the same problem. Consider this, You said your wife works hard and you want her to feel appreciated. Did you ever think that if you did nothing at all around the house then she would not only have to work but she would also have to come home and do whatever it is you do during the day plus she would have to take care of you. I'm sure you think that what you do around the house doesn't amount to much and you dismiss it pretty easy why don't you ask your wife how she feels about the hard work she does all day, chances are you will get the same type of answer, she would dismiss it as "nothing much" Right now you can't do what you normally do but this is only temporary so you do what you can, and it sounds like you are. Good Job>
2007-01-31 10:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, you are so normal! After a major car/bike accident, my husband & I were laid up for a couple years, on and off, between surgery. Don't stress over the things you can't do, enjoy the ones you can, and modify activities so they become easier. Do you like nature watching? Any nice parks to wander around in? Or pehaps you'd prefer to watch the young skaters at the skate bowl? Are you a book worm? Use the spare time to study up all the things you ever wanted to know...
If you really feel you are being engulfed by depression, please, don't be afraid to see your doctor. No-one has to know, and there are some very good treatments available.
I'm sure your wife is understanding. Maybe just buy her a rose and say "because I can't help out much,here's a little something to show my appreciation/love".
Keep it together, it should only be temporary. Enjoy having an excuse to be totally butt-lazy! ;o)
2007-01-31 09:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... picture a long, hard day at work. What would you want to come home to? Clean house, nice dinner, shiny kids...
Some things I'd LOVE my hubby to do for me (that could be done one handed) that would make me soooo happy -
clean out that junk drawer that you can barely close
give the fridge a good cleaning - I hate doing that
get rid of all the expired or useless stuff in the back of the cabinets
cook (or order) her favorite dinner, and freeze the extras for when you're back at work and she's had a rough day
help the kids get their rooms organized
catch up on the filing - getting rid of all those icky stacks of paper makes such a difference
Unless she's a control freak, then some of the above might annoy her!!! Just watch her as she's doing stuff... which things does she hate to do the most? Cross those off her to do list before she even gets home, and she'll love you for it.
2007-01-31 10:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her a lovely dinner or take her out to show her how much you appreciate her that ur willing to take her out even with the shoulder injury.
2007-01-31 09:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her read your question. I am sure just leting her know how much you appeciate her will make her very happy.
2007-01-31 09:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by twysty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋