I have been dating my boyfriend over now 9 months and has been out of a job for over a year. He has told me that he can get me a job where he works (landscaping most mowing, removing snow, planting ect....) its nothing i need experance with and anyways i was just wondering would be a good idea for me to work with him, and be with him all day, wouldnt that hurt our relationship ... i love him to death but i dont want any thing to happenbetweent us .... And have any of your worked with your boyfriend/girlfriend at the same job before?
2007-01-31 09:46:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
EDIT**** I have been out of a job for over a year
2007-01-31 09:49:59 · update #1
generally thats a BAD idea and many companies dont allow it... I say don't do it... keep looking elsewhere ;)
good luck!
well, maybe ok, as long a your not in the same place working - like you in the office & him in the field... that could work out...
2007-01-31 09:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by string1dm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working With Boyfriend
2017-01-15 03:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question. And Very tricky as you have already pointed out.
I actually met my boyfriend of a year at my current job. Moreover, he still works here too! We have been living and working together in the same place for the entire length of our relationship and it actually works. But here's why:
We both work in different "focuses." He is an architect, and I am a department manager. I focus on the finances and management of the office while he is technical. So we never have to consult each other on work, never work on the same projects. He has his work world, I have mine. Also, our Boss does not know. We keep it very very professional at work. We do not take act like boyfriedn/girlfriend at work, and we do not like work asociates at home ;). We draw the line clearly and keep our space when we are in the office - its necessary for our individual success.
However, we had the growth of learning how to do this when we first started out. You have a slightly different situation where you will have to get use to being in a work environment with your mate. This can be difficult because he will have to see the "work you." And you will have to get use to the "work him" as well.
As long as you clearly define the role you are playing it can work. Communciation is the most needed thing in this situation. Also it helps if you are doingin different things. For instance it will work better if you are doing office or accounting work, and he is out on site doing the landscaping. That would probably be fine. If he is suggesting you work for him, or with him in the feild, I would sugest maybe you consider a different avenue for work. try craigslist.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 09:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Alli B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know im going through the same thing right now my boyfriends job called me for an interview im contemplating on whether i should go or not im afraid that if i start working with him im going to find out something thats going to break us up maybe its meant for me to go
2015-07-09 23:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Adrienne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I would say that is not a good idea but considering...
a) you've been out of work for so long
b) the nature of the job
I'd say take it if you can
2007-01-31 09:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(*shrug*) It's tough dating someone you work with. Especially, if you break up. I don't think the shift is the problem. It's working at the same place.
2016-03-15 03:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I worked with my 'boyfriend' ... he sold sno-cones and I sold cotton candy at events ... and it actually made us 'closer' because we could talk about 'things from work' and REALLY UNDERSTAND what each of us was saying. And I don't work now, and he does ... and we've been married for ten years and will be together for 'the rest of our lives' ... and I think that doing 'landscaping' work together would be just 'so cool' ... because you'd be outdoors, and could have 'fun' (okay, it is work, but it's also fun work) ...
2007-01-31 09:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on how strong your relationship is. If you can be workmates only during the day and then bf / gf after work you should be fine. Never bring your work arguments home, and never bring your home arguments to work.
It is difficult being in each others space all the time.
2007-01-31 09:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get off your *** and get a job
2007-01-31 09:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋