I need some more confidence. I mean the past girls I have been with all say I'm nice looking and I am conceited, and I am to a certain extent, but it's not my fault. All of the past girls were the ones who spoke to me so I never really had to do any work, but I know I have to start doing the talking if I want girls more like me, and that I like more. So ladies please give me some advice.
2007-01-31 09:37:06 · 11 answers · asked by playatm25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off, confidence is never a bad thing but unfortunately when you're conceited you build yourself up more than you deserve. If someone says you're nice looking that's an okay compliment, but if you want a woman who likes you and who is more your speed and caliber than talk to women who are just as materialistic as you are. Find a beautiful woman tell her you have a lot of money and get her whatever she wants in exchange for sex. See if that works. No girl likes a cocky man, you keep the same personality you have now, you'll attract women cockier than you and you'll be worse off. Check that man in the mirror. Good luck babe!
2007-01-31 09:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I feel for you guy!!
In my opinion choosing the best places to meet people is important. Those places are (1) a church (2) a social gathering (3) school.
Try to remember, though, that you desire a nice girl with morals and respect. I would hang around a group of people - guys and gals. We men are visual. We tend to act with our hormones first. What I advise is to look first, but don't act until you see some measure of this girl's heart. Is she nice, etc. Write down on paper what you are looking for in a woman. And remember when you date someone, that someone is a potential marriage partner.
When you are interested in a particular person, start talking with her. Ask her questions about her, what she likes, (travel, hobbies, camping etc.). Don't talk about yourself at all. If she asks you questions about you answer them truthfully. You can't fool a smart girl. She'll see right through you.
After talking for a while and you begin to sense that she is getting comfortable with you, and she is likewise is becoming the same with you, end it by saying you have to run BUT tell her that you enjoyed talking with her and ASK her if she'd be interested in meeting you for coffee at, say, MacDonalds or something. The whole idea here is show her you are interested in her by talking about her. This impresses the gal and she'll get the idea you are no jerk or not self-centered.
After coffee, ask her for her number. BUT do NOT tell her you will call sometime specific. Just say "I'll be your a call sometime" is this alright? Don't offer her your number unless she asks for it.
Remember to dress well, have taken a shower. Be well groomed, smell nice. Have your car cleaned inside and out.
2007-01-31 17:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Drwho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a special interest, like hackey sack, Japanese Language, rifles, flower arrangement, hiking, fencing, anime, video games, etc., go to a club for it. You'll find girls who are interested in the same thing as you. Starting up conversations that both of you enjoy will be very easy. For a first date, do something related to your shared special interest, like playing hacky sack or going to a modern art museum. As you get to know each other, other interests will come to light, as will preferences for dating settings (indoors, outdoors, with or without food, something you can talk during, something that you don't talk much at, etc.)
2007-01-31 17:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important thing: BE REAL!!!!!! Just be yourself, don't try too hard. If you see someone you might like, just say "Hi" and see if you have anything in common. If you hit it off, then you hit it off! It's alot easier if you are familiar with the girl. My boyfriend and I were in the same class one year and it took him the whole school year to really talk to me. But it helped that we were in that class, so that's what we started talking about and it led to getting to know each other and we're the best of friends and we're thinking of marriage! Just be real...that's the best thing I can say to you.
2007-01-31 17:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by seashellie89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Buddy,
you are asking ladies how to pick up girls. The kind of girls picked up by other girls aren't likely to be attracted to you anyway.
I mean come on, Rosie O'Donnell for pickup tips, I think not!
2007-01-31 17:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lt. Dan reborn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to meet a girl is through friends i would say. the best way to pick up a girl is to be charming and be yourself. as for a first date, dinner is always good. movies don't allow time for chit chat
2007-01-31 17:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm just be nice dont make it seem your trin to pick her up but dont sound obvious either if you feel a connection then ask her for her number or something
2007-01-31 17:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by ayani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your own question, I would agree you probably need more confidence. and dress well too that always helps
2007-01-31 17:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stuff your wallet full of money then walk past some attractive women and "accidentally" drop your wallet and make a big deal of picking it up eg "OH MY IVE DROPPED MY WALLET AND I HAVE SO MUCH MONEY TOO" and they women will be round you like flies round doodoo
2007-01-31 17:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by mr_soapytitwank 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont try to hard..she'll be turned off
it's all in the game my friend...all in the game with these women of 2007 lolll
2007-01-31 17:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋