My mom is Messed up!?

Question

well to start of me and my mother never really got along and since i was 12 she hasnt bout me any clothes or help me out with any money i needed. I started workin at 14 buyin my own things and paying part of the bills and she still never appreciated this. I also have a younger brother who is 5 yrs old right now and weighs 90 lbs. My moter obviously like my little brother better and even my guidance counselor said this. Anyways she wants to go to canada as soon as i turn 18 which is this july to be with my stepfather(father of my little brother). She doesnt want to help to put me through college because she says its not her job to. So i want to kno if that before she leaves can i do something legally to her such as take her to court before she goes to canada for not helping me out while i was younger. Thank You

ps. I cant live wit my father because i have never talked to my father since i was 1

Answer 1

No, theres not much can do with your mom. Consider this though, you have about 6 months before mom heads for Canada, give her no more money. I don't know what part of the county that you live in, but start looking for RV or travel trailers, you can buy a used rv trailer or older motor home and live in an rv park for probably 300.00 a month that includes water and electric. I don't know what kind of work that you are doing, but there is always the construction industry. Maybe you like to paint, paint houses, really good money. There are so many options out there. If they are not building in your area, then find one that they are building in, like Mississippi, theres alot of building going in Mississippi and Louisianna right now and will be that way for at least the next 15 years. I know its not college, but when we were coming up, our parents couldn't afford college, but, we make more money than most college graduates anyway. Just pick a path and stick to it. A very wealthy man once told me, "pick one thing and become proficent at it, become the best at it, and you will do well. I did, I paint houses and make a good living at it. Good Luck.

Answer 2

i don't think you can sue her for this. you are obviously a strong person or you wouldn't have made it as long and as far as you have. you will make it the rest of the way too. what your mom has done to you isn't right by any means and you have the right to feel the way you do about that. what you need to do is find some friends that will be there for you and help you out in any way that they can. this will be really healthy for you because then you will have people to talk to and get advice from. you can't change the past but you can learn from what your mom has done to you. use her mistakes as a learning experience for when you have kids. by being in this position as a child, you know how it feels and you will know what to do and what not to do to be the best mom for your kids so you can give them something that you never really had which is someone who really loves and supports them and has their best interests in mind. hope this helps. hang in there, you can do it. good luck.

Answer 3

You must be open minded with people of different ethnic backgrounds so that you grow up to be a person with no prejudices. Talk to your mother. Maybe she has some reason why she behaves like that. She is your mother and definitely has the best intentions about you. She might be able to explain why she behaves that way. At the same time, be open to all kinds of men and also explain this to your boyfriend, if you have any. He can take the extra step and explain to your mom that he is as good as any other guy in society. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Hey here is a ray of sunshine - someday your mom will get old and have nothing better to do except reflect and she will be sorry. Guess what, when she is in the nursing home and your stepdad is either dead or w/ another, and she needs someone to take care of her, you can say its not your job too. You sound self sufficient and stay on the right track, do not give up going to school, there are alot of grants, loans and other things you can get to assist you if you are on your own. Good luck. God bless you.

Answer 5

Actually, yes, you can generally try to sue her since she never bought your clothes or other necessities. However, it depends on your state laws....you did not mention what state you live in?? You need to make a detailed list of what she DID provide for you, and what she DID NOT provide for you. If you really want to take her to court, you will need to get a lawyer....you should be able to find one in your local phone book or online. You should also contact your local department of child protective services, to tell them that your mother isn't providing you with necessities. Tell them the truth about everything that is going on. Save the name of your investigator, and keep a detailed diary of everything that happens with your mom and the investigator. You should then present important details of the situation and use the child protective services investigation as evidence to the judge when/if you take her to court.

Remember, your mother is NOT legally responsible to pay for college (i know that sucks), but she IS legally responsible to pay for any expenses you have had to pay up through grade 12.

If you have any other general questions, feel free to contact me via Yahoo Answers email.

Answer 6

By law, anything you earn is hers until you are 18 bad for you. On the other hand she is responsible for providing clothing, food and an education. If she isn't talk to social service agency and tell them about your situation. You will probably need their help soon any way. Brush up on your English. Most are really turned off by misspelling, poor sentence structure and incorrect word usage. Go get 'em girl you CAN do it.

Answer 7

What can you take your mother to court for? She hasn't done anything illegal. Unfortunately! She hasn't really neglected you although she hasn't given you the love you want. She, however is abusing your brother, 5 years old and 90 pounds, call child services at once. He is obese! He needs real help. You can get yourself into college, you get your grades together, get a scholarship and work get a loan if you want to go. Many of us didn't have parents help us and we made it fine without them. Hang on to you. Become strong. Call Dr Phil. Email dr Phil He might help you I am serious. Go on your computer to Dr Phil and write to him begging for help tell him about your brother and just like you asked your question and how you feel neglected, maybe you can get help. I feel for you. You definitely need guidance.

Answer 8

I really don't know, but I don't think you can sue your parents for being bad parents to you. You never know though, try calling legal aide or a lawyers office and ask them for advise. I hope you can because your Mom hasn't done right by you. Good luck.

Answer 9

sadley there is nothing legally you can do but when you turn 18 there is other finacial help you can get. you are probably an indepentdent person. stop paying the bills for her and give yourself something and go to college and get a job and make a lot of money. and then see what your mom says

Answer 10

not to be mean but your mom sounds like a bi**h and maybe you could take her to court and say you helped pay the bills and want the money you spent supporting her