I have this amazing boyfriend. Sweet, kind, there isn’t anything I’d change about him. Except how he “deals with” his jeolosy.
His best friend, also one of my friends, we talk a lot. Not like, flirting, but just talking. And it drives me nuts because everytime we talk, my boyfriend walks away. and ignores everyone (including me!) for the rest of the day. I beat myself up over it, and I try to not talk to him just to make my boyfriend feel better, but honestly, is it wrong to have a guy friends? Should I ditch the guys completely? I don’t want my bf to be sad, all I want for him is happiness. But I also want mine. I don’t love anyone else but him. But he doesn’t believe me.
What should I do? And no, dumping him is not an answer.
2007-01-31 09:26:11 · 11 answers · asked by Love is Patient, Love is Kind ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best thing to do is talk to him as him how he feels the key in any relation ship is communication if it bothers him that much you sometimes you just have to make the sacrifice.
2007-01-31 09:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by sassy1011984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to dump your jerky boyfriend, stop having other friends. Stop talking to boys. Only see other friends when you boyfriend can watch you. You might give up your computer,too in case he thinks you have internet friends or something. Stop having girlfriends because he might think they're saying bad things about him. Change to an all-girl school. Eventually you'll have to put a bag over your head so no other guys look at you-- that might make your insecure bf happy.
So now you should be able to enjoy being with a guy who ignores you, can't deal with his own petty jealousy, allows you to beat yourself up over it, and basically calls you a liar- happy times!
2007-01-31 17:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy,I see this sooo much.In truth girl all you can do is let him know that by being jealous he makes you feel bad and like he don't trust you which makes you feel withdrawn from him.
Look, No matter what you do it will get worse by you letting him have his way.He is insecure because he lacks self confidence and thinks that by getting you to be away from any man than him it guarantees him your his.
Well, First off if you were going to cheat on him you would weather he wanted you to or not and could do it without him knowing.But your not and wont cause you love him and him only.So, the best thing you can do to be able to keep him but get him to stop this behavior is to be stern with him when he acts like this.Tell him, look,I love you but that's my friend and I am not going to drop friends to make you feel secure.Either you love me and trust me or you don't but that's something you have to be secure with in yourself.If you truly love me and want to be with me, you wont treat me or those that I care about badly because you feel threatened.I am a good loving and trusting person! Know it,believe it and let it go!!
This may sound harsh but in reality its what he needs to hear,otherwise expect to keep dealing with this and end up watching it get worse and worse till no friends want to be around you or him cause they wont want to keep dealing with it.
2007-01-31 17:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a little thing called "trust"...jealousy comes from not trusting.
he sounds like he is a jerk about this.
you can either dump all of your friends that he feels this way about and be unhappy yourself, and since dumping him is not an option...too bad as he sounds very immature...then the other choice would be to keep your friends and let him pout and then get over it like he has been doing.
friends are hard to come by...you should not dump them because he is immature
gl and be cool....
2007-01-31 17:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, DON'T give up your friends for a guy. Your friends were there beofre the boyfriend and your friends will be there after your boyfriend.
2007-01-31 17:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta make sure you talk to his best friend like you would talk to an aquaintnece ..show your man the love and attention when he's( thebestfriend) around.....
its a tricky situation..
2007-01-31 17:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by roy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will have to learn to control the jealousy. You will eventually dump him trust me, it gets old
2007-01-31 17:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider jealousy might only get worse with time
2007-01-31 17:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm. does he have gurls that are friends?? if so u need to have guy friends too..
2007-01-31 17:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well just tell him that u love him and that hes the only dude for you it will work...................... i think
2007-01-31 17:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋