My boyfriend treats me wrong what can i do?

Question

okay i love this guy but he is a jerk with me at times
what can i do to make him appreciate me a lot and to make him realize he has a girl that loves him?

Answer 1

men are gonna be jerks sometimes. if he's over jerking it ... let him know. "Hey, I understand we all have bad days I and I get that you may not want to be bothered sometimes, but I love you and would like for this relationship to work. To be honest, I feel mistreated by you. blah blah blah ... " this is the only way to let him know how you feel and how you want to be treated : TELL HIM!!!

Answer 2

Hi
My suggestion, & I am a guy myself is to be honest with him and to his face tell him this:

"I feel that you are a jerk with me (cite examples that "you feel" constitute a jerk in your opinion) - remember to use "I feel" statements.

"I love you, but I dislike the ways in which you are treating me"

Be honest and spontatanous with him. But remember if he is really a jerk, he will "become defensive" or "become reactive". If he becomes either of these then you should say "I need some breathing room for a while" (what you want is to return home and think over this relationship, perhaps discuss it with both your parents or/and close friends). Your boyfriend may ask "what do you mean 'breathing room'? Just reply "time to re-evaluate our relationship". Then you must leave. The longer you stay or hang around him after telling him ALL this you will become weak or weaken in or go into a weaken condition yourself, and you will have an argument and perhaps become defensive and reactive yourself.

Be sure to say the things from your heart if you mean them; and leave - no buts or ifs. If he is any man he will cleanly make the break, that is let you go home without further arguement. If he still persists take off.

If, after thinking for a few days down deep in your heart that this guy is a jerk, and he is not mature then you must, meet with him again to break off the relationship. You might say "I am breaking our relationship off" and then leave. If he persists again (defensive and reactive just ignore him and go. You may be hurting inside yourself, but remember you deserve to be respected as a woman, a human being and as his equal.

Otherwise he will just continue to manipulate you for his own needy gains.

I don't know how old you are; but remember every guy you date is a potential husband. You need to be careful and follow your heart, not your hormones or your head.

Just pretend you are already married with a teenage daughter who comes TO YOU with this same problem. WHAT ADVICE WILL YOU GIVE TO HER? If you act wisely NOW, you will give the PROPER ADVICE, the ONLY ADVICE later on to your daughter or even your son.

Answer 3

Tell him chill out and be nice when he starts being a jerk. He can't deny something he just did to your face. Sounds like he may have control issues. This could escalate down the road. Stand your ground and stay the course. Don't put up with him being a jerk when he don't get his way. Love is about sacrifice. Take a good look at your relationship, you may need to consider moving on.

Answer 4

You need him to want you more then you want him. Normally we want the things most that we can't have, hummm, may mean you need to end it. You should get a guy that will treat you right and one that you don't have to make realize anything. But again we most want what we feel we don't have so you are hungering after a guy that is not yours anyway. You will not be able to change him, but he may change himself if he feels like he no longer has you to "be a jerk to" and realize what he had and change his own way. Hard to do but I'd look for another and don't take the nice guy for granted and do the same to him that yours is doing to you...

Answer 5

do you think you have to do anything to make him feel what a great person you are?
if he does not appreciate you now he will never do, what you have to really do! is leave him.
you don't need a jerk, you need a caring kind boyfriend. look for one instead of wasting your time proving your love to someone who treats you wrong.
best lo luck to you..

Answer 6

Honey, if this guy does not treat you right then dont waste your time with him. He will not change no matter how much you may want him to. Find a guy who treats you right and wants to appreciate you and love you.

Answer 7

Sorry to say but if he treats you like a jerk.....then get rid of him. He's taking you for granted and you can do better than him. I've been there and unfortuneately they don't change and sometimes it can get worse.
Hope this helps?

Answer 8

first of all if he treats you wrong he must have some kind of a problem with him self and dont appreciate they way you should be appreciated as a girlfriend to him then maybe you shoul d look to find someone who will appreciate you for whoyou really are and appreciate the love you have to give some one else it works both ways

Answer 9

give him a choice and put your foot down if you beak up with him let him know that your serious dont cry over him and dont come running back to him girls always do that and that makes guys think that they have the upper hand in the relationship. once hes relized what he had he'll come running back and will think twice about being an ***!

Answer 10

Tell him if he doesn't change, that you will leave him. Which I think you really should consider. If he doesn't respect you and is a jerk to you, then you should really consider leaving him. I know you don't want to hear that but you should.