Are we too young?

Question

I'm 17 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. I love him and he loves me. Esto mi amor para la vida (he's my love for life) On Christmas he proposed to me. Are we too young to get engaged? We don't plan on getting married for another 2 years, but we when we do, We'' be 20 yrs. Is that too young to get married? We already planned on having kids almost right after we get married, but is 20 too young to have a baby? I love him so much and he loves me. I need advise

Answer 1

I second what hbk wrote, and I also speak from personal experience.

If you want to get engaged, go ahead. But, I think you are very wise for planning to wait at least 2 years before actually getting married. The two of you will change a lot in that time. You're both entering the adult stage of your lives, and believe me when I tell you that virtually nobody in their 30s or even late 20s is the same person that they were as a teenager. You need to see what kind of person each of you is going to become. You'll be learning a lot about yourselves and each other. And, in 2 years you'll be much better able to decide if this is really the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.

I think 20 is still a little young to get married, but it is MUCH better than getting married at 17.

Answer 2

The only people who can answer that question for you are you & your family and him & his family. You've all got to weigh out the pros & cons and make a decision together.

Marriage/Children is a personal decision that everyone will have a different opinion on.

My own personal opinion....HELL YES it's too young! Don't you want to have fun & live your life as much as you can before you "settle down"? This might not seem like an important thing to you because you haven't really had a chance to REALLY experience life to it's fullest yet. Im 26 years old and I feel I've got at least another 2 years (free of commitment) to go.

I can't imagine beginning the next stage of my life before I'm even finished with this one.

Answer 3

You can't be serious --17 yrs and married--HA--its a good fairy tale don't fool yourself I 'm 32 and just married --you are way too young and-wait let me guess " .....but we really love each other,blah,blah,blah-- and having babies??? your both still babies--in a year or two you will think back to what I say and laugh--because I'm right-- what about college,supporting these babies,your house, bills ---wait until you live just a couple of real life minutes before you ruin your life--really this is a joke question --right????

Answer 4

If you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer. Your doupting things, so you're obviously not ready. Why do you feel you have to be engaged? You love each other right? You don't need a title for that. Just enjoy being with him, you have the rest of your lives to be engaged and then married. Why rush?

Answer 5

Personal opinion? No you are not too young to get engaged and yes 20 is too young to get married. Personal experience, mate!

Answer 6

as long as you truly love him, and can't see yourself with anyone else for the rest of your life, sure go for it.

but if this is just some teenage love romance where you think you love him, but it's just really infatuation...i say no, don't go for it.

whatever you think is best for you. here are a few questions to ask yourself:

can you really see yourself with this guy forever?

are you able to handle the pressures of being married?

do you believe he truly loves you?

are you ready to say goodbye to your childhood?

can you handle everything marriage throws at you?

can you handle the finances of a marriage and baby?

can you handle having a baby? staing up sleepless nights...crying..etc?

^ ^ just some questions to ask yourself before deciding on getting married or engaged.

in my opinion you are way too young. but who am i to judge?

Answer 7

What ever you think you can handle. Kids are a big deal...and marriage is hard.

Answer 8

way too young

Answer 9

I say no go for it!