My question is regarding if I should butt-in or not. My B.I.L. is married with 3 children. His wife works while he stays at home with the kids. The problem is, he is a crack addict. He didn't start this until he was expecting baby #1...really strange if you ask me but, anyway. My husband (his younger brother), my MIL, FIL and myself busted him pawning stuff that he steals out of their home (including their wedding bands!!!) He has fallen asleep many, many times while the kids were both infants (they are 11 months apart) and the neighbor had to break-in to wake him up. He said they were crying for over 3 hours! His wife is aware of his addiction but, she won't tell him to stop because last time she told him that, he left her while she was 6 months prego. My MIL refuses to acknowledge that he even has a problem. Recently, my SIL was telling me that they go to my in-laws and "shop". They go over there and take what they want out of their house! My hubby won't speak to them at all.
2007-01-31 09:04:10 · 5 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Addiction is a powerful thing, it doesn't just effect the addict, it effects the spouse and kids etc. The spouse may "cover up" what the addict does, there is a certain amount of pride involved, no one wants to admit to being married to a crack head. She will have to acknowledge that her life has become unmanagable!! That its not healthy for her and her children to live like this. You could befriend her and show her gently that its not ok, that the kids are losing their ... dvd players or that his crack use in the house is going into the clean air the kids breath, but, ultimately she will cover it up, and the crack head is not sane and is not seeing anything wrong with what he's doing. Or, u could call the cops and they could investigate and she may or may not be held accountable too.
2007-01-31 12:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dannielle T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get into her business, be sure you meet such obligation to the very end. Don't just do a little and act as if your the saint who "did" something. If you truly want to help and not just being a busy body then you should befriend with your sister-in-law and just support her and mentor her back to good mental health.
If you have the nerve to say: "leave him or you should..." be sure that you're able to provide her with some TRUE support, and not just good words, you need to get your hands dirty as well. There will be a lot of crying, kids acting up and hearts broken before you will see a hint of recovery.
Now... are you willing to go through the who process? If so, then god help you, because no others will. Just remember this: when you are successful, friends will always come around; but when times are tough, there is no one around to see you cry.
If you're one of the few who is still left in this world, then do what you think is right.
2007-01-31 17:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Inquisit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but normally i would not butt in but there r children involved so yes i would get the child welfare people involved.
2007-01-31 20:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has the right idea. Go along with him on this one.
2007-01-31 17:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i can't do better then him i think he is my true love!
2007-01-31 17:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by courtw33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋