We have a great relationship, yet no proposal. Do I wait till he proposes or just start planning the wedding. We do plan to get married because we've talked about it way before we had our daughter. HELP!
2007-01-31 08:54:45 · 25 answers · asked by ♥poppy honey♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why not just ask him to sit down with you and set a date? You don't have to have a "proposal" to get married, all you need is both people wanting to marry, and a little bit of planning. Don't be shy to bring it up with him.
2007-01-31 10:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you have already talk about it in the past, but today is the present. Think of it this way, you are not sure to ask him about this, so he might not be sure how to bring this up! Talk to him and tell him your wishes, but be ready to hear something that you might not like. I am going to tell you a little story. My now husband and i, were living togheder for 2 years and had talked about getting married, but he had never actualy proposed, set a date or asked my hand in marriage. So one day he comes up to me and says, i do not have a single pair of boxers clean, so i just turned aroud and said, well honey, the only ones in this life who do your laundry are your mother, your wife or the maid, and i am not in any of those categories. Two months leater we were planing the wedding. But wait, this is going to make you laugh more, we were not living in the same city as may parents, so i told him, next time we go to visit you have to ask my parents my hand in marriage or i wont marry you, so there we are saying our good byes to my parents in the door on our way to the airport, and as he shakes my dads hand, he says, well, next time we see each other it will be for the wedding, and my mom says great! So i call it the fastest and less romantic hand pettion in history, we joke about it all the time, we have been married over 9 year and been togheter 12 years!!
I hope i made you laugh, good luck and remmember to put your self in his shoes.
2007-01-31 09:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Atzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have a baby before you got married??? There's no real reason for him to get married now. Oh yeah, make an honest woman outta ya. You will be waiting a long long time for that proposal. if it hasn't happened already....it probably won't happen. He's got it made. and you are the one who is stuck. He can walk out at anytime and you are obligated to raise the baby.
2007-01-31 10:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by imagr00vychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would communicate these feelings with him. He may just have commitment issues or is waiting for the right time. Having a newborn can be hectic and trying at to plan a wedding at the same time takes money. I'm sure he loves you and will listen to your feelings.
2007-01-31 09:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by ALF08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't proposed because you have been living with him. He doesn't want to or need to get married. What a shame that you want different things, and you have already brought a child into this! What you need to do is grab some independence, move out on your own, and see how things go from there.
2007-01-31 22:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definitely would not start planning a wedding yet! You are going to get stuck with a lot of non-refundable deposits if he says no way. Why don't you stop wondering and just ask him?
2007-01-31 10:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't want to commit - afraid of married life, probably because of influences in his life from those he has seen married. Talk to him about it if it is important to you, and explain to him the benefits of marraige. Let him know that the only thing that will change is a deeper commitment between the both of you and the only thing that will happen from that is a deeper love and understanding of each other.
Married 10 wonderful years!
God bless.
2007-01-31 09:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Thunder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you want to get married? He can't read your mind. Most men get comfortable in their lifestyles and don't think about that kind of thing. He probably thinks you are just fine with the way things are because you have never said any different. Just let him know you are open to discuss getting married in the near future and see how he reacts. My sister is in a 20 year relationship with her "boyfriend" she has bought engagment rings, given ultimatums and threatened to kick him out but never followed through with anything she said so he knows he doesn't have to do anything because she won't, but they don't have any kids so there is a difference.
2007-01-31 09:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-16 17:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay did u let him know that u think this would be a good time to make the leap? u need to make sure u are in communiation with him. he cant just read ur mind. he may feel that u may not think this is the right time.
befor u do anything talk to him and see where he is on the timeline for marriage.
2007-01-31 09:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by ray g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋