I asked my friend who I haven't seen since last summer if she wanted to eat at Applebee's with me . If I remember correctly applebee's is kind of pricey . Since I made the offer do I pay for both of us or do I ask her to pay for herself.?
2007-01-31 08:51:45 · 31 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A few extra details ,
I am turning 21 ( gosh that's sounds so good)
I have said many .many times in my questions I live in a small town. We only have the major fast food places and a few chinese resteraunts ( yuck) and a few mexican resteraunts. So to me Applebee's is quite the treat.
2007-02-01 12:09:33 · update #1
We just ate at Applebee's and we both had the riblet dinner--they were $10.99 each. I think if you invited her, you should pay. She may reach for the check, but don't expect it.
I guess next time you ask someone to eat with you, it would be best to say. "do you want to go dutch and eat dinner with me?"
I have always thought that the one who invites does the paying. But with my friend, it's just known that we each pay for our own meal when we eat together, no matter who suggests it.
Whatever happens, I hope you have a nice time with your friend, and Happy Birthday!
2007-02-01 00:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, if you ask someone to join you, regardless of the situation you should pay. I'm sorry you had to make the plans for your own birthday!
Applebee's is not pricey. It is a cheap bar-and-grill franchise, and if you are reasonable about alcohol, dinner shouldn't cost you much more than $25 or $30 for the two of you.
Personally, even if my friend had called me to go out, if I knew it was her birthday I would insist on paying for both meals, despite whatever her intentions were and no matter what kind of establishment she wanted to go to. I bet your friend will pick up the tab, but be prepared to do the honors just in case.
BTW: these rules about paying for a meal extend to dating: whoever does the asking does the paying, regardless of gender, but always be prepared to cover your own butt.
2007-01-31 09:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you invited your friend to join you for your birthday dinner, then, I would say you pay for her dinner.
Applebees isn't too pricey- the meals cost about $20 each (drinks and desserts, extra, of course).
When you talk to your friend again (to confirm the date) This will give you an opportunity to say "we are just paying for our own meals tonight, is that o.k with you?"
If it isn't she can back out gracefully. You can also offer to pay for the desserts!
Recently, I met up with some old friends from high school. One we had not seen in over 30 years. We shared this information with the waiter. He brought us a free dessert! (We were at Applebees!)
2007-01-31 09:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) Applebee's is not pricey, so no worries there.
(2) When you invite someone, unless you agree otherwise, it's polite to pick up the tab. If you get to the end of the meal, the check comes around, and your friend offers to pay, a simple "thank you" is all you need.
2007-01-31 09:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since the invitation went from your side I think you should pay for it. But if your friend offers to pay for it, you can split the bill. I mean do a bill amount/ 2 instead of checking on who ate for what amount. That is if your friend offers to.
word of advice : if you end up in a situation like this try an pick a place which is not too pricey.
2007-01-31 08:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by ilovemylife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you invite then you should expect to pay. If I were your friend tho, I would pay for your dinner on your birthday. But, the rule is you invite, you pay. Happy birthday!
2007-01-31 09:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by cetak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree one iota with everyone who says that you must pay for her dinner just because you asked her to go to dinner with you. The only time I would expect someone to pay for my dinner would be a date who asked me out. I meet friends for lunch or dinner several times a month & we pay for our own meal.
However, since you invited her, she should not pay for your meal & you shouldn't let her. Tell her her presence is all the "gift" you need since you wanted to spend your b/d with someone special.
Waitresses usually ask if you want separate checks or not. Get separate checks.
2007-01-31 14:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Goodness... it was at your invitation, birthday or not... you certainly should pay. Who knows, she may surprise you and reach for the check first or offer to take it off you hands.
2007-01-31 09:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you extended the invitation then you are obligated to pay the tab. She didn't invite YOU out for YOUR birthday.
2007-01-31 12:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when you invite someone, you pay, but since it's your birthday I would hope your friend would at least pay for herself, if not you also as a birthday present!
2007-01-31 08:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by sczingal 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋